Does anybody else feel like I do about life? I am terrified of the future because every day brings me closer to the day that I will lose people I love, such as my mother and other elderly family members. Every day I am so afraid because I think this could be the day someone close to me dies and everything will change. The best things in life, such as being in love and babies being born, are just not as powerful as the bad things in life like losing the ones you love. So how can a person live life happily?
2006-11-28 15:27:58 · 23 answers · asked by martina_ie 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you ever heard "that it is better to have loved, then to have never loved at all"? I feel that this is true. Many people have never allowed themselves to love, because they know they may lose the person later on in life. When they get older they feel saddened because they never got to experience true love. It doesn't only have to be with in a sexual relationship, that we find love. We can love our parents, and grandparents. even friends.
You have time now to experience love, even though it may be a short time, cherish it.
Spend time with your family, make memories with them. Don't think about the future, think about the now.
There is a devil out there who wants us to believe that nothing is good in our lives, so that we give up. So that we don't believe in a God Almighty. But we have so much to live for, so much blessings. You have your health, family, a job, friends, freedom to make your own choices, things of enjoyment around you.
Live your life to the fullest. Learn from the life's lessons. Don't take your family and your life for granted. Make the time left enjoyable for all of you. The bible does speak of a better future.
It may bring you comfort to read it, from time to time, even daily. It has helped me find comfort, so has prayer to God.
Make your life happy. It must be you to do it, no one else can do it for you.
2006-11-28 15:46:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is daunting because of the element of uncertainty, but we have to live with it and take neccessary risks. With each happy event we return to worrying because that's what we are to an extent programmed to do. The proverb "there is always safety in fear" comes to mind, basically if you just take precautionary measures, such as live the healthy lifestyle, take insurance, talk to loved ones whenever you can and just be nice to people, without doing anything that would make you lay awake all night worrying, then you can afford to let go a little. Even nice and predictable events, like weddings are terrifying, some people think about what could go wrong and in graduation ceremonies-what if I don't get a job within a short space of time after this, I really need to pay that bill. Yes the future is scary but looking at it on the other hand, it also gives you everything to live for.
2006-11-29 00:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is. It can be a little scary. Of course no one knows what is going to happen in the future, so there is no point worrying about it.
Don't think about the bad things that may happen one day, but concentrate on the good things that could also happen. If you worry too much about a bad thing you'll end up needing a psychiatrist.
2006-11-28 23:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by colin.christie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is scary. Life is terrifying and to think of death and dying is scary. But it sounds like you would benifit from living your life to the fullest because if you have too much time on your hands your imagination can run wild. Peoploe do live their lives - happily I am not sure - but they do the best they can and enjoy the good moments and brace themselves for the bad.
2006-11-29 01:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the feelings you have are common to most humans who love others.
Some suggestions are:
One thing is to work hard to enjoy the moments with them when you are with them.
Another is to state the truth to yourself that dying is a part of life - it will happen to all. Find people whom you can talk about this with, the hospice community has many.
If you can choose to find the courage, read books on grief, loss, etc. There is less to fear when you learn about it.
Many find comfort and hope in spirituality, that our lives have a divinely ordered purpose and there is an afterlife.
And finally, with someone you trust, write or talk through the "worst" carry the thoughts you are afraid of through their next.
If the thoughts are so strong they interfere with your desired or normal activities be sure to talk with a professional psych or someone trained in CBT to see if there are underlying causes you aren't aware of.
I think you are very healthy for asking and facing these thoughts and fears. You can overcome this!!
2006-11-29 00:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by ~'`~purplebutterfly~`'~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is so clear how much you care, how much you cherish the important things in life. That's why its better to celebrate that you have experienced your loved ones at all, that you have had the time you spent with them, and live for today. Remember, your loved ones have had great lives and given you a great life. What more can we ask from life than that? Even if their time comes, they will have succeeded in making your life worthwhile, and in living their lives well. Isn't that satisfying to you? Why waste the precious little time worrying about a loss that is inevitable when you can celebrate their time with you today?
2006-11-28 23:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying, but death is part of life. We all have to accept that truth. Enjoy your mother and other elderly family members while they yet live. Give them all the "flowers" that they can see, feel, and smell and when that time comes...let them go. My own late mom once said to me, "Son, don't be sad for I go to a better place."
Do I miss her ? Yes, but I'm not sad for she is with all the ones who have gone on. I believe that she is with her Lord as well as with my late Dad.
2006-11-28 23:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by no nickname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is no way to live your life,(a constant state of anxiety)..it looks like you are suffering from
Dependant personality disorder,or possibly Borderline personality disorder.. have a peek at the site below if you think it sounds like you then do make an appointment with your GP , they can sort this out for you ....
http://mentalhelp.net/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=517&cn=8
2006-11-29 17:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by Vivian X 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking about what will happen in the future and start living life now
You can't stop people from dying or getting old so why worry about things you can't change or even effect in any way
Live life don't hide from it
2006-11-29 00:00:24 · answer #9 · answered by xpatgary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sure think big picture. as practical and realistic that you are, turn the direction of your fears into a form of appreciation of those you love. the day you lose them is a day you cannot avoid, but it doesnt mean that all this time til that day arrive, there is nothing that you can do. spend enough time with your loved ones. thinking about it and doing nothing comes to nothing in the end.
2006-11-29 00:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋