i have a friend of mines who usually gives me long hugs when he sees me. yesterday, he hugged for a longed time and whispered in my ear that he wants to rape me. i've been told that he likes me from my friends, but he's never made a move. i don't know if it mean he wants me or he's having impure thoughts about me or he wants to have sex. Anyone been in this situation or knows why?
2006-11-28 15:19:14 · 19 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i also remember a few months ago when i was in his room with a friend of mines and he was saying he wanted to make out (playfully). i was sitting on his bed and he jumped on me and was hugging me tightly. i was trying to get him off of me but he ended up kissing me on my neck. i then decided to leave. i thought he was playing around so i ignored this. by my reaction i felt that he knew i wanted to be just friends. Months later he didn't show any signs that he liked me so I continued our friendship.
2006-11-28 15:39:22 · update #1
i also remember a few months ago when i was in his room with a friend of mines and he was saying he wanted to make out (playfully). i was sitting on his bed and he jumped on me and was hugging me tightly. i was trying to get him off of me but he ended up kissing me on my neck. i then decided to leave. i thought he was playing around so i ignored this. by my reaction i felt that he knew i wanted to be just friends. Months later he didn't show any signs that he liked me so I continued our friendship.
2006-11-28 15:39:29 · update #2
It means you should playfully wisper back, "I'll tell the police." Actually, you should avoid this guy like the plague! He obviously has extremely poor social skills if he thinks an offer of rape is sensuous. NEVER be alone with him.
2006-11-28 15:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend that asked this of a woman. Strangely enough from the guy's point of view this is a complement.
From the women's view....weeeellll, a leetle different :-)
translation:
He likes you and thinks you look hot. You do turn him on.
My recommendation? Take it slow with the guy. Don't let him tap the bootie until the wedding day because I think he'll just go to the next woman after his satisfaction has been met
2006-11-28 15:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ted Jordan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... a guy saying that is a bit creepy but not knowing the guy I couldn't even begin to assume what he meant.
Second... I think you should concentrate on guys who will treat you like you are special. I will tell you this: it's refreshing to have a guy take things slowly (and it sounds like you should not be thinking about things like this right now).. ask you out to a movie... talk to you... put you on a pedestal.
2006-11-28 15:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if someone said that to me, I'd pull away and tell him you don't like that kind of talk. It's offensive and dangerous. If he wants to date you, he should say so. To suggest rape is crude and disgusting. I would avoid this man from here on out.
2006-11-28 15:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a police report, and then get some help for yourself. You're going to have a very difficult life if you don't learn some basic things about human behavior. I am not trying to be insulting. I really do care, and some girls need some extra help in this area. Maybe you can start with your school counselor.
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2015-02-09 07:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well - its usually a way to say that he really wants to be with you. that he really wants to be with you, but he isnt sure about how you feel about him - that doesnt really sound right - its not what i want to say.
it used to kind of be a joke - if you told someone you wanted to rape them - they say - you cant rape the willing - kind of saying that the feeling is mutual.
BUT - if he said it a little freaky - like - he meant rape rape - then you might wanna stay way from him! : /
2006-11-28 15:23:25 · answer #7 · answered by mollylollypop 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he was playfully telling you he wants to have sex with you.....(rape is kind of a strong word to use in play)...I dont know.....if it makes you uncomfortable...listen to your instincts...they will usually let you know.....I dont know him, you or your situation enough to judge.....!???????
2006-11-28 15:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the long hugs indicate he likes you, the wanting to rape you means he want to have sex with you...probably something he shouldn't joke about these days since too many people take jokes the wrong way.
2006-11-28 15:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by Angie R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know when you watch a scary movie and the killer is coming through the door and you are yelling at the girl to get out but she just stays... yeah it's kind like that... get the hell away!!! I am yelling at you...yeah you. STAY OUT>
good luck..
2006-11-28 15:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by jmilil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋