I did not have a good Thanksgiving, so I am trying to make plans to look forward to for Christmas.
My daughter is 14 and lives with her Dad in another state. She is supposed to visit me for Christmas per the divorce decree, but she does not want to.
My daughter is telling me to come to the state where she lives for Christmas. She wants me to stay with her and her Dad. I am not sure if this is the right thing to do.
My ex has been putting pressure on me to return to him. He was and still is controlling, abusive and money-minded.
The other option I have is to stay home which would be sad because I am temporarily living with my parents and they would go to some friend's house and I would have to tag along.
I have an option of visiting Las Vegas by myself or visiting my cousin in Los Angeles.
I am confused as to what is the best thing to do.
2006-11-28 15:15:37 · 7 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been in a situation similar to yours, and I've found that the best remedy for this is to go on an adventure. Being busy in a new city will help keep the depression away. My vote is for Vegas, unless you are close with your cousin and you are sure you'll have a good time.
I'm sorry about your daughter. She obviously wants her parents to get back together and doesn't understand that that can't happen, so I think you should let her stay with her dad, and tell her she has your blessing to do so. I'm not voting for staying home with your parents because it sounds like you're certain you'll feel uncomfortable.
So get away, and make the best of it. Trust me, Christmas will be better next year, and even better the next. Take care of yourself.
2006-11-28 15:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, if your daughter does not want to come home to you, definately do not go to her. Stay away from the ex.......DO NOT EVEN GO THERE. Do something for you. If visiting the cousin in Los Angeles would make you happy, I say go for it. Make yourself happy. Christmas is a happy time. I know you love your daughter but do not let her control your life. Sounds like she is trying to be like her dad. Hope this helps
2006-11-28 23:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by chocoholic_40 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like to me you are afraid to grow up, and stand up for yourself. Go to the state where your daughter is, stay at a near by hotel, and spend Christmas with her. What is the big deal? By the way there is nothing wrong with money as long as you obtain it fair and square. (Are you sure you know what abusive is? Most woman do not)
2006-11-28 23:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Las Vegas can be alot of fun, but I dont recommend you go alone... that is a town that has vermin all over it, walking the Strip at night by yourself (female) is looking for trouble.
Maybe your cousin can meet you in Vegas, and the two of you can have fun together. If Not, there are Plenty of things to do in Los Angeles,
Like Universal Studios.... the HOLLYWOOD SIGN....TV Shows....Lots of things!
2006-11-28 23:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd go see your cousin in L.A. or do the vegas thing...you need a break from all the drama so take one. Have yourself a ball!
2006-11-28 23:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well,
I would want to be with my daughter,
but then staying with an ex not even an option,
so have your daughter meet you in LA
& have a blast without the ex...?
2006-11-28 23:24:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what about buying a round trip ticket to someplace you've never been before like Greece or London or something like that? Get out of your rut. You don't have to spend oodles of money.
2006-11-28 23:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋