Pls do advise me..I dont know what to do decide---...Will he still love me if I decide to marry him 3 more years after my graduation? He is an irish guy 17 years older than me and I am a Filipina currently a third year college student. He became my boyfriend last June 2006. I suppose to look for a job first before marrying him. Can he still wait not to have sex with me yet before marriage if I decide to marry him 3 more years after my graduation? Pls do help me to decide...I really like the idea of "Chastity before Marriage"...
2006-11-28 15:10:27 · 13 answers · asked by jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it ok to get married at 21 and he is 37? besides he had his work already to support me...what do u think?
2006-11-28 22:29:36 · update #1
Sure. Why not? If you truly love each other, I just married my husband in August and he is 14 1/2 yrs older than me. Some times these things just work out that way. I think it is a great idea to wait a few years to make sure things work out. He and I were together for 3 yrs first, and yeah a job would be in order, those weddings are very expensive. And, sure, if you want to wait until your wedding night, then that is your choice. Don't let him, or anyone else tell you that you have to.... if he truly loves you he will respect your decision.
2006-11-28 15:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well only you can decide. But If he can wait 3 years then He really loves you. Then you should marry the guy. But if he says he can't wait then he may not be for you. Do not let him talk you into doing something you do not want to do or not ready to do. Also think about this when you are 54 he will be 70!
2006-11-28 16:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Diddly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little girl.....not meant as in insult, you are way too young for him. Not that he will get tired of you, you will get tired of him. He will be set in his ways. You need to get out there and experience what it is like to have fun before settling down. I married a man 10 years older than myself. He became very boring. He never wanted to do anything except watch TV and go out to eat and come home. There is more to life than that. Live a little before thinking of marriage.
2006-11-28 15:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would advise that you finish college.You might get stuck with someone who just wants someone at home to be his maid.That gives you three years to find out what he is really all about anyway.I married a girl 8 years younger and she grew out of the relationship a few years later.Learn to be self sufficient first.
2006-11-28 15:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he will respect your wishes, if he leaves you it was never meant to be.. and he is probably not worth it.
Follow your gut....before you make a decision listen to your inner feelings....you shouldn't have any doubts in you mind..if you have doubts about marrying him then maybe he is not the right person for you.
When you are in love with someone age will not matter nothing will stop you from being together, and you will never have a doubt in your mind.
2006-11-28 15:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 07:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont recommend marrying this guy with the age difference. i tried being married to a guy who was 13 years older than me and it was horrible. I have NEVER heard of a woman that much younger being happy forever with an older man.
2006-11-28 15:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he loves you and respects your wishes he can wait to enjoy sexual relations with you until you are married.
The age difference is not a problem if you don't make it one.
2006-11-28 15:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some counceling first to make sure this relationship is right...please......then stay a "untouched" until your wedding night...that way it will be special...good luck...
and there is nothing wrong with marrying someone older or younger than you .....and also if he loves you he can wait...there is a lot of 40 ish men who are making babies...so you will be okay there..
2006-11-28 15:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by moaehahi1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with age difference, if he loves you and respects you he will wait for you to be married.....good luck
2006-11-28 15:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋