Well there has been this huge sexual tension between this guy and I for a while now. The thing is that, I work with him and that he is my boss's brother. On top of that, I know he has feelings for me (he has been very clear about this whole thing), but I don't feel the same way. I love flirting and all with him, but have no interest in dating..whatsoever. Most of you guys probably think I am a ****, but I'm not. Never was, been and will be. It's just something I wanna do to get it over with. Anyway, as what I've mentioned above, I am not so sure I should do it. What do you think?
FYI: I will not want to date him though, but the problem is: he wants to.
2006-11-28 15:09:48 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It sounds like it is his problem, not yours. I've heard this before. Your situation and thoughts are not unique. It mystifies me that some people, like you this time, think that sex may be the answer for this. Believe me, if you give him sex, it will be the beginning of him expecting more, not less. I suggest stopping it now by you explaining very clearly to him that you will not have sex with him. It needs to stop with you. He will not lose interest soon if you do not put a stop to his advances toward you.
2006-11-28 15:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Piguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual tension is great... we all get "that feeling" for someone once in a while...we are human....acting on it is a different thing though. Don't have sex with this guy... in the end run it won't be worth it and it may mess thing up in a big way.
2006-11-29 03:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by witchway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a definite NO. Having sex with the dude will only get him sprung creating an even bigger problems with the guy. Also the fact that the guy is your boss's brother may make things bad since you truely want no relationship with this dude, he may go complain to his brother bout it and get you fired. In this situation, sex is not the answer.
2006-11-28 15:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Havoc Prime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not want to just do it and get it over with. This is a big no no in the workplace. Whether he wants to or not, do not go there. This will be the biggest career mistake you could possibly make. You also could even take the chance of not getting a referrence if you had to leave there.
2006-11-28 15:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like to flirt w/ him but don't want to date him, that leads me to the conclusion that you are flirting out of defense (to avoid confrontation) or out of actual interest but that interest is buffered by something else..perhaps a motivation of what someone would think of you/react towards you if you are involved/seen w/ him for perhaps a superficial reason...this reaction would be a sign of immaturity...either reason would require a different response to ensure a proper decision regarding the situation/closure...
2006-11-28 15:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't sleep with guy that is interested in you, and you are not. You will only end up hurting him, and probably ruining your reputation at work. Why would you want to sleep with someone you don't have feelings for? It's much better to wait and find someone that you really care about, before you jump in the sack with them. Trust me, the right man will come along for you. Don't do it with this guy. You will only end up hurting yourself in the long run.
2006-11-28 15:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will not make you a slut. I met my husband in college and when we went out to talk I told hime that all I wanted from him was sex. He of course was fine with it. Eventually I ended up with feelings for him but my intention was just sex. Men can do this and well so can women. Dont feel bad honey you get to be in the mans shoes. Good luck and be safe, not to mention discret
2006-11-28 15:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What on EARTH are you talking about???? You want to flirt with him, even though you don't want to date him....is that right?? If he's interested in you, that's not very nice...you're being a tease...
why not be a nice person and not lead him on?! Would you want someone to do that to you?
2006-11-28 15:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do NOT sleep with him for any reason! That will absolutely have consequences, especially if you don't want to date him. He can influence his brother anytime and you don't want to take that risk. He could become obsessed with you or something. Much better to draw the line now and say that you don't think you ought to do it.
2006-11-28 15:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many guys who would turn down sex, especially in a situation like that. Just b/c he wants a relationship, doesn't mean he won't have sex with you for fun
2006-11-28 15:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sulli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋