my mom is on METH..!!??

Question

i just found out my mom was outta jal on a $100,000 bond cuz she go caught with crack in her car...then two days later she went back to jail for doing meth...i havent seen my mom since i was 5...im 13 now...in the county 5 miles away she is known for her drug abuse while being pregnate with my brother and he is very sick too almost to death.....she is always in the paper for drug abuse and everyone in the county knows her and hates her she lives with three hispanics and worst part is she might have an STD from them she had me at 15 and left me when i was 5....i last talked to her on april 9 "06"...shes really sick too and since meth is the #1 killing drug in america what are the chances she will die??and can you give me some advise on how to approach her about this???(on the phone only though)thanx!!

btw i know it was long but i tried to make it as short as i could

Answer 1

There is probably not much you can do for your Mom, it must be a hard reality to face. You can get help and support for yourself though.

I would say you can either choose not to be a part of her life, or you can choose to have some contact. If you choose to have contact, I would be wary of getting involved with any of her drama's. Maybe it's better to wait till your'e older?
Drug addiction is very powerful and you don't want to get dragged down with her, however if you can be in contact without getting upset and dragged down, then that's cool too.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I am sad to read this, and I hate to say this but your Mom right now is not your Mom she is Meth. It takes over and you become someone else, not a mom or a sister. You become dependant and ruthless to get your next fix. She will say what ever you want to hear to get her next fix. Be prepared if she is in your life because she might manipulate you, I know you want to help you sound like a a caring person who desparetly wants to have a relationship with her Mom. I know I am there but it is with other drugs and addictions.
My Mom goes in the bathroom for long periods of time, her teeth are falling apart and her life is unhappy and I see her pulling me down because she is down. It breaks your heart sometimes to avoid a parent, but be kind, pray for her and tell her you love her
Maybe to keep it positive, ask your Mom what was the best memory of the two of you and when you were a baby.
Tell her that you forgive her for she knows not what she does and then look in the mirror and tell yourself----I am my mothers daughter but I am ME and I WILL NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO ME. I WILL BE STRONG BECAUSE I AM STRONG.
I don't know if any thing I said has helped and It wasn't meant to hurt you, but My heart goes out to you sister, we're swimming up the same river. My best to you.

Answer 3

I'd tell her that I'd never want to speak to her ever again unless she was clean (with required drug tests) and with supervised visits.
Kid, I used to be a meth addict and a drunk and whatever you can name. She will NOT get clean unless SHE is ready to. Tell her she needs to see a doctor, have a complete checkup, be treated for the STD if indeed she does have one, and remind her that exposure to that STD could have exposed her to HIV. The reason I am not being gentle with my answer is that you sound like a good kid, and you need hard, honest answers.
I'll keep you in my prayers and I hope your mom and brother get better, and I hope that you won't have to be so worried about her.

Answer 4

I know this is tough, coz it's your mom. But, addiction is an ugly thing that most times requires professional help to conquer. If you are safe, sheltered and fed, let her be the adult and work out her problems. She knows you love and care for her. Chances are she would not accept any help or suggestions you attempt to give her anyway. Sadly, without professional help, the outcome is not promising. I'm proud of you, that you are able to see what a mess this can make of a person's life, and how it affects others around them. Just keep yourself on track, stay safe and educate.

Answer 5

You cannot help your mother get off of drugs or change her life if she does not want to do it. The chances that she will die are pretty high because she does drugs, probably doesn't take care of herself or eat right and she probably sleeps around. The best thing you can do is call her to let her know that you love her and will be waiting for her if she ever decides to clean up her act.

Answer 6

What is it exactly that you want to talk to your mother about? I'm sure that she already realizes that she is a bad mother to you and your brother. And if you were to beg and plead for her to get help at this point you would probably be wasting your breath. I think that just about the only thing that you can say to her at this point is that you forgive her and thank her for giving you to a family who can take better care of you. Tell her that you love her, and that you will always be there if she ever needs to talk. You are a pretty great person for wanting to reach out to your mother. You are going to be a great mom someday! Good luck to you.

Answer 7

If he has a reliable legal professional and is fairly some this stuff he would get custody...yet I doubt it. she will be able to really be watched now, finally lose the youngster to a foster abode the position it is going to likely be even extra neglected and abused. yet lets wish she receives off of drugs truly.

Answer 8

i think your should try to get her to get help, but you can not make her get help if she don't want it. I know this is hard for you but you have to keep your head up and make sure that you always make the right decisions. Keep in mind that you can try to get help but if she does not want it, you have to up your head up. Continue to be a good example and you don't have be just like your mother.You sound like a very Strong person and keep your faith.

Answer 9

sorry, my dad did drugs too. he died about 10yrs ago when i was 18. it's not easy to watch your parent kill themself slowly.

Answer 10

never speak to her again.