I am a 33 year old man, and have had cancer over the past 15 years. My parents took care of me during the illness. I am well now, but my parents worry about every move I make. Everything I do has to be approved by them. If they don't agree, I don't do it. I think I would feel so guilty if I did something they didn't like. Its got me so down that I don't really try to do anything now. I wait each day to be told.
2006-11-28 14:57:11 · 12 answers · asked by rocky raccoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell them nicely, that you are ok, please let me be my own person.......
2006-11-28 15:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see your parents side to this you have been through so much and they almost lost you and so there very over protective now. I think you should sit them both down and tell them how you feel. just like you have done here. And explain to your parents although you appreciate there love and you understand why they are like this cause of what you have gone through. That this could come again no one knows when there time is up and that you want to make the most of the time you do have. and even if its not the right step they think you should take you want to be able to experience this for yourself. and that nothing is forever and that you have to try and do the things that you want to do in life. and if they could support you on this.
And let them know you will always need them in your life. but you need to spread your wings and find out things for yourself and try them . yes you may stumble and make wrong moves but its all a part of growing and learning.
I wish you well and a long and healthy life.
2006-11-28 15:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on beating cancer! That is awesome! I know that your parents would feel over protective of you but can you blame them? They got their child through a serious illness, they want what is best for you. It also means that they love you very much. But now you have a whole new life and you want to move on and settle down and meet your soul mate. You have to explain that to them. Tell them that you want to look ahead to the future and meet the person that you were meant to fall in love with. If you are living at home with your parents you need to move out. It is easier for you to live your own life that way--you won't have someone constantly looking over your shoulder. Also remind them that you're 33 years old, a grown man not a sick child anymore. Let them know that they are bringing you down and that you spent many years feeling down and now it is time to celebrate life! Be honest and open with them, communicating is the best thing to do. Good luck to you and my God help you to stay cancer free!
2006-11-28 15:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by hailesellase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just silly you are an adult and you should have your own life and be able to take care of yourself. Even though your parents took care of you when you were sick doesn't give them the right to tell you what to do. If you want to make your own decisions then you need to sit down with your parents and tell them that you feel that they are too controlling and that you know they are just trying to do whats best for you but that you want to be in control of your own life and make decision on your own. You want to live life to the fulliest because so far with cancer you haven't gotten the chance to do everything you've wanted and that you would appreciate if they would back off. if you need help with something .tell them that you will always know they love you and that they will be there if you need them. its that easy your an adult tell them to back off.
2006-11-28 15:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAN, YOUR 33!!!! I think you are Plenty old enough to MAKE your own choices in life. Do not let your parents ruin your life, or tell you what and who you are! Yes, they helped you through a rough time in your life, and You should be deeply grateful to have love and help during that time. BUT THAT SHOULD NOT BE an excuse for you to STILL give them control of your life.
There is a way to still love your parents, yet tell them that they cant have that control over your life.
What I dont understand is "why is it so hard for kids to SPEAK up to their parents?"
I guess if you like living in missery and letting them run it, then sure. Have fun! But , if your tired of it, THEN DO SOMETHING about it!
Its not about pleasing your parents, its about YOU choosing WHATS best for you.
YOU ARE 33!!!! BE A MAN.
2006-11-28 15:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your baby, it really is a present. I have a 2 12 months previous daughter and he or she is astounding. Granted I have a husband so I have extra help. the eye-catching element about little ones is they love you unconditionally (a minimum of till they're young children or so I listen) even in the adventure that your ex must keep up a correspondence or no longer makes no distinction. Or in case you experience you cant develop this infant then there are various couples accessible who're keen to undertake. My cousin and her husband basically followed a infant sometime after it replaced into born to a unmarried mom. There are human beings accessible who wish they could have little ones and can't. Oh and that i ought to destroy off all notwithstanding the most needed contact which include your ex. He sounds like he's undesirable for you.
2016-10-16 10:57:36 · answer #6 · answered by beaudin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard for your parents to let go because they feel that they were so close to losing you. It is natural for parents to have a paternal-protective nature. Perhaps, explain to your parents that you need to learn from your own decisions in life...this does not mean that you are leaving them. Your parents love you very much. They do not want to see you hurting, or getting hurt. A silly analogy that may help, is to express that you are a bird ready to "fly"...you are bound to get a few ruffled feathers, but eventually you will soar.
2006-11-28 15:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Nut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it ....you are 33 years old yes your parents took care of you but, you are a young vital man if you do not live your life it will pass you by... if you have to move away from your parents do so.. tell them you love them but if you don't live your life it will pass you by.. tell them you value their input but you have to live...and make steps and mistakes on your own... trust me follow your heart and you will be fine....
2006-11-28 15:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by Andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Suck it up and be a man. Or let mommy live your life for you. All the rest is tiresome noise.
2006-11-28 15:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you have a talk with them and tell them straight up how you feel about these things....Being honest and open usually works....
2006-11-28 15:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lrn'dTheHardWay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them , and say end of story and walk away!
2006-11-28 14:59:01 · answer #11 · answered by MagikButterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋