my husband has just been sent to jail although not convicted, and is now very insecure and constantly doubting my love for him i love him very much and i am and will continue to bve faithfull to him but how can i explain and reassure him .
2006-11-28 14:57:04 · 12 answers · asked by tyshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the same situation as you, just reassure him constantly and write to him and always say how much you love him, it's hard I know, but just make sure you constantly tell him and say that he has to trust you and that you wouldn't be waiting for him or standing by him if you didn't love him, maybe tell him that you need him too. Please feel free to email me if you need to talk.
2006-11-28 21:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to speak from experience, I just got out of jail 2 months ago, and I see this situation a lot. Most of the time the women will wait on the sufficient other about 3 yrs. and then after 3 yrs. she's gone. But there are those exceptions, and you can be that exception if you choose to be. What you must do to assure him that you will stay down for him (that's prison talk for stay with him) is write him at least twice a week, and visit as often as you can perferably every other week. What this does is keep the fire burning for you being alone away from him, and what it does for him is helps his self esteem, insecurities, and/or jealousy. And your actions will speak louder than words. Good luck.
2006-11-28 15:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by SimplyYoung 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in the same situation except I'm the one who needs the reassurance. When he went in we left things on rocky grounds and I'm left standing here not knowing if he truly want to be with me. I haven't been able to contact him in anyway shape or form in 5 weeks. only person we have kind of been able to get to pass messages back and fourth with each other is his mother and she's not the most helpful person at times so I've managed to get her to tell him that I love him. An apparently he wrote to her saying to tell me he loves me to the moon and back. An one of the guys he was in jail with just contacted me an mentioned all he does is talk about me, so I guess I shouldn't be too worried. Either way my point is feels like we are both doing time here, just one gets better food then the other. Take it from the one who needs the reassurance. You make sure you tell him you will stand by his side no matter what and no matter how long it takes, you'll be right there when he gets out!
2016-05-08 23:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitlyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all you can do is keep reassuring him. Of course, if he'd really wanted to be in close contact with you all the time, perhaps he shouldn't have committed the crime. The whole point of jail as a deterrent is to stop people enjoying the benefits of living in a free society. Sorry I'm not terribly sympathetic towards criminals.
2006-11-28 15:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner was in jail 10years ago and he shouldn't have gone to jail. i didn't no him then but he told me no1 would visit him. one of his brothers did once. he was their for a year! all you can do is when you see him tell him you no it must be hard to believe that you wont cheat when hes inside but ask him if it was the other way round would he cheat on you. tell him how you feel every time you see him and that there is no way you could ever cheat on him and live with the shame of it every time you see him. hope things work out.
2006-11-28 21:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bound to be depressed in the situation he is in. Offer him all the reassurance that you can and try to bewith him as often as possible. When He gets out....This is what he will remember!
2006-11-28 16:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you have to go through this worry? he got him self into trouble , not you! he is making you suffer right along with him. try putting your feelings in writting to him an when he is locked up an feeling down , he has something to go back on read again.
2006-11-28 15:03:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have nothing to do in those places than to sit around thinking stupid thoughts, and of course listen to the other males in there, just do as you are going to, he will soon realise that you are faithful and love him heaps.....its just prison life.good luck and god bless.
2006-11-28 18:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you write him every day and tell him in your letters. Make sure you go see him when he has a visiting day and always tell him you love him.
2006-11-28 15:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 22:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by genthner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋