Please help me!!This is kind of a difficult and embarrassing question?

Question

well my mom just told me that i will be seeing a gynecologist in about 2 weeks and im very nervous...she told me that my doctor was a male and i really dont have a problem with that its just that im really scared about the kind of exams he will be doing...im 16 and she said its time for me to go but i dont agree. I want to know how can i prepare mself for it and what will he do to me? I do have very irregular periods and i was also wondering whether i should tell him that or not because i have 2 periods every month and i started m cycle when i was 11. could this be a reason that she would take me? But will i be there for a long time? Im very afraid its gonna hurt and im just praying for a flat tire on the way there. Pretty ridiculus huh...but this doctor stuff has always freaked me out. I have never even allowed my pediatrician look down there so i really dont know how im gonna just flat out show the doctor everything that i privately own. Can you all please help me?

should i cry and beg her not to take me?
im not being spoiled or anything just really nervous. and absolutely refuse to go

Answer 1

Hi, Shay--
Seeing a gynecologist is a normal part of women's health maintenance and I'm a little surprised you haven't seen one before this. The only thing I'd suggest you do in preparation is relax. Gynecologists, no matter what gender, spend a good part of their office time looking at what's down there, and nothing you say or show them will be any big surprise. The standard exam usually runs about 15 minutes or so, with some added minutes for just talking. The whole exam is to make sure you and your parts are healthy and functioning properly.
Generally, the doctor will take a look, outside and inside, sometimes a feel if necessary, with gloves and an instrument---it may feel uncomfortable, but that's mostly because it's new and strange. If this is your first exam, there may be a little pain, but the doctor can explain what he's doing while it's happening.
If you have some fears and questions, don't be afraid to ask the doctor while you're there. Ask more questions if you need to.
Doctor visits can be scarey, I know, but they are there to keep you well and healthy.
Remember, you and your doctor will be partners in keeping you in good condition---because you're a patient, doesn't mean you just have to lie there---be friendly, be curious, be at ease.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Good grief! You mean your mom has made an appointment with a gynecologist for you, and hasn't told you what it's all about? You need to talk with your mom and find out why.
Likely the fact that you are having two periods a month has a great deal to do with it, but still, she should be talking to you about it.It's your body!
As to what will happen -- nothing harmful, nor embarassing. He will likely have a nurse in the room with him, and he will do an examination 'down there' which will involve a speculum. That's just a fancy word for a gadget like the doctor uses when he examines your ear, only this one is a little larger. It lets him get a closer look, to make sure everything is okay. He'll ask you a lot of questions and take down your history, and then he may either recommend a D and C to clear out any tissue that might be causing your problems, or he might order some medication for you, or he may need to have more tests run to discover exactly what the problem is.
You really do need to find out what's causing the double periods, as that can lead to serious problems, such as anemia.
In any case, it isn't going to hurt, and it won't take a long time. It's understandable that you're a bit nervous, but he'll know that and help to put you at your ease. After all, he's on your side. He wants you to get better. While the examination is going on, feel free to ask whatever questions are bothering you. That's what he's there for, and you are entitled to know what he is doing and why.
Hope it's all cleared up soon.

Answer 3

It's scary the first time you see a gynecologist, but you'll get through it okay. Don't be concerned that it's a male doctor. Doctors are doctors; he's not thinking anything sexual during the exam. Also, when you have a male doctor it's a law that there HAS to be a female in the room at all times when he is examining you. So he won't do anything without a nurse there, just so you can't claim later on that something bad happened. Talk to the nurse and she should be able to keep your mind off of things.

My doctor gave me the option of having the exam first or filling out all of the paperwork first. If that's the case, do the exam first to get it over with, then you can get dressed again to do all of the forms.

The exam will be uncomfortable but shouldn't be painful. The doctor will teach you how to do a breast self-exam, and while you're there he'll check your breasts for lumps.

Then he'll do the gynecological stuff, which will include a pap smear. This means he'll scrape some cells off of your cervix to look at under a microscope to make sure there are no funky cells. Your cervix is deep into your vagina, so in order to get at it he'll need to insert something that looks like a long duck bill into your vagina. Then he'll reach in the middle with a long q-tip thing to get the cells. Your cervix has no nerve endings, so that won't hurt, but the duck bill thing (speculum) is uncomfortable. It only lasts a second, though.

Then he will do a pelvic exam, which will involve him putting his fingers (wearing gloves) into your vagina. He'll press from inside and outside of your body at the same time to make sure your uterus and ovaries are all in the right places and feel okay. Once again, it's not fun, but it's not painful and it's over quickly.

Tell the doctor about any problems you are having with periods; that will be important for him to know, and he might end up putting you on medication to make your periods more regular, which would be good.

Don't be too nervous. It's just one of those things that all women have to go through. It gets easier after the first time. Good luck!

Answer 4

Well my Dear this is a normal part of growing up female. It is OK to be nervous, no one likes to be probed, even down there. I cannot tell you a lie, it will be a little uncomfortable, but shouldnt be painful. The good thing is that most Doctors will explain to you everything they are going to do before they do it, so it wont come as a shock. Most of the time,if you want, they will allow your mother to go in with you. They will have her stand at the head of the bed or sit next to you in a chair, that way she isnt down there looking too. 16 is a good age to start these things, especially if you have 2 periods a month. The whole exam shouldnt take that long. They will check you and run some tests to make sure everything is ok. Irregular periods are pretty normal at your age. Dont worry to much about it, I know it is a scary thing, but you will do just fine.

Answer 5

I definatly know how you feel. My mom didnt take me pretty much because i begged her and told her there was no reason to. Then i started having really painful/irregular periods and my sister said going on birth control would help. So i set up an appt and i was really nervous and scared, i didnt know what to expect and the whole time i was waiting in the waiting room i wanted to sink in my seat and just die. Its really not that horrible of a process and it goes by rather quickly i think. Its really not that painful at all, im sure you will be okay. The lady that i had talked to me about school, family and just comfortable stuff to make it go by quicker. So after all it wasnt that bad of an expierience. Definatly let your doctor know about your irregular periods though and they will do the best they can to make you comfortable and find something that works for you. Good luck :D

Answer 6

i'm not one of those doctor/hospital type people either. but once you hit maybe 15 or 16 its good to go for health reasons. it doesn't hurt, just relax. these people do this day in and day out. they were trained to do this so they know exactly what they are doing. its alright to have abnormal periods at your age, i know i did for a while. just don't stress out. they may be able to suggest something to help regulate your periods like birth control or hormones. the exams usually are done with in 30 mins, and that includes some talk time. when you're actually on the table i'd say 5-10 mins, 10 being absolute tops. and believe me, it doesn't hurt at all.

Answer 7

No, I think its a good idea for a girl your age to go. There is no need to be afraid. He is going to just examine your female parts. It doesnt hurt, he will ask you all sorts of questions. And yes tell him about your irregular periods. The OBGYN is your friend. I love mine to death! He has been my Dr. for 7 years. He was the Dr. who gave me 2 c-sections and brought my 2 babies into this world! If I could reccomend him to you, Id tell you to go see him! But, there is nothing to worry about! He will look inside your girl part, its uncomfortable, but no pain. Dont worry. Oh, and by law, his nurse will be there in the room with you. If you need to take a friend with you. You'll be covered. so, not everyone can see anything, just the doctor. ANd maybe the nurse.

Answer 8

No, you should not cry and beg her not to make you go. This is a very normal part of growing up. You have no reason to be nervous, especially if you aren't sexually active. If you are, on the other hand, you can ask your doc any personal questions you have w/o your mom knowing. They may put you on the pill to regulate your periods, and as a bonus you get birth control.

Answer 9

i use to think the same thing. i was about your age when i first went. i had really bad periods with alot of pain i wasnt suppossed to have with normal periods, and bleed alot more then normal. and i didnt like the fact it was a guy either cause i hated anyone going down there lol. but u have nothing to worry about. hes there to help. my obgyn really helped and he found out that i had a bleeding clot problem (thats y i bleed more then i was supposed to). i had to have knee surgery a lil bit after that and if he didnt find out i wouldnt have had the medicine to help clot my blood and i would have lost alot in surgery and i would have greater problems. so dont worry. just let him know everything thats goin on and he will help. thats his job. dont be nervous, he wont do nething that hurts. just make sure that everythings ok.

i hope this helps out and i hope your appt. goes ok :}

Answer 10

Your fear and discomfort are understandable. Ask her to switch to a female doctor.

Your mother is doing the right thing. At your age you should be seeing a gyn at least once a year. In the beginning it will be a little uncomfortable, but your gyn will put you at ease soon enough.

You have absolute privacy and it's a chance for you to ask questions in confidence.

Do not be afraid it does not hurt and its over within minutes.

Good luck, Let us know if you're still afraid when it's over.