i am 17 can my mom MAKE me get an abortion or give my baby up for adoption?
2006-11-28 14:09:03 · 17 answers · asked by southern_delite_75 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Lol no my mom told me all that crap too...scared me pretty bad but no she cant make u do anything. and its not like she can send you to jail and there going to make you. If i was you id just ignore her shes proably just upset cause her daughters pregnant give her at least a few weeks to th ink it over and stay clear from her aftermath and then it should be okay by the tiem you get your first ultrasound..try doing something cute for her like printing offline some cute little grandma poems...what grandmas are good for like spoiling there grandkids and stuff in a poem and leave it in her car or hand it to her when she drops you off. That should make a difference goodluck to you and congratulations on the baby!!!
2006-11-28 14:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be absolutely wrong. There are things that she can do to make your life miserable if you choose not to abort, but if she's totally unsupportive, you will defnitely want to find a crisis pregnancy center where they provide services, counseling, physical needs and more to help young women who want to keep their baby. I think it's a shame how adults cannot understand that yes maybe there could have been better timing for you to have sex, but the miracle has happened to you nonetheless and the baby will be one of the greatest blessings ever in your life. Most families come around and start to love baby once they have the chance to see and hold baby after he or she is born. Be brave, stand firm - you have the right to keep your baby. If I knew you - I'd do everything I could to help you out. If she doesn't want to be grandma - that's her choice and it will end up hurting her much more than it will you. However, without mom's support you're going to need some major emotional support, kindness and someone to shower you with comfort and care which is what you need right now - not to be treated awful. I can tell you that no matter what - you and that child will never regret that you kept him or her - no matter how hard it was or how poor you might be. With adoption, there is pain and regret and you don't know if you will ever see them again based on the adoption agreement. With abortion - you'll have serious regrets. I've never met someone who made the choice to keep their baby who really said looking back - I really wish I had aborted or given the baby up for adoption. People are so full of it these days in this consumer driven society that we actually believe that people MUST be filthy rich and have a perfect life to have children and that's just false. If you have love in your heart for this baby and it sounds like you already do - you will find a way and there will be people to help make this possble - even if your mom chooses not to be a part of the most wonderful miracle in life for any woman. I've actually looked into adoption and read some other couples profiles and it just is heartbreaking - like they are saying - we have money and a big house and and a wonderful family - we have so much love and everything to give your poor child - like mother is not the best person for them because they don't have a spouse and their not in their 30s yet and don't have a house a big yard lots of toys siblings and a dog named spot - oh and did I mention the picket fence? All that is nice - but mother's love is what every child longs for regardless of all of the stuff and having 2 parents who are rich, etc....
2006-11-28 14:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no she cant make you do anything, this is YOUR baby and YOUR body, plus you are close enought to 18 to be considered an adult. However she can choose to not support you and even kick you out which can alter your decisions because you feel so alone and helpless. There is help and counsling available. You didnt mention what the guy has to say or if you have any other family members to turn to but i hope you do. If you know you truly want this baby then be prepared to face a rough road... it's not easy carrying a baby esp with no support at such a young age. I mean unfortunatly your friends cant even relate. Rember that nothing stays bad, things always find away to work out and chances are your mom is just feeling hurt because you are her baby, so young, and this isnt what she envisioned for you. I think eventually your mom will come around, once that baby is born she will grow to love and accept it. Just keep in mind that whatever decision you choose is final, you cant take back an abortion nor can you make it dissappear when you have it. Best of luck hun.
2006-11-28 14:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she can not make you get an abortion. I am not sure about giving it up for adoption, it may depend on state laws in your area, but around here I am pretty sure that the mother and only the mother (meaning you) gets the final say in whether or not the child goes up for adoption. I don't suppose you are lucky enough to have the due date after your birthday (for sure she gets no say after you turn 18)
2006-11-28 14:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the state. I severly doubt your mother will make you have an abortion, it is not good for your body. now adoption she may do. I would check your local laws. Call social services and talk to a case worker. they will be more inclined to lean twards your side over siding with your mother in any decition. in the end it is your body, you cant let your mom make you do anything. you need to take a stand and let your feelings be known. grow a back bone and become a responable soon to be parent. Good luck, and if you need to talk further, darkgothvamptress@yahoo.com I will help in any way i can.
2006-11-28 14:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Holly M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she cannot make you even though you are not yet a legal adult.It is your baby-not hers and you have the say as to if you want to have it or not.Please don't let her talk you into abortion-if you cannot keep the baby choose adoption.My birth mother was so young and choose adoption for me and I am so thankful for her giving me life.
2006-11-28 14:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by mama of 2 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
put it up for adoption!
someone who really wants a baby can have your beautiful baby. your very lucky to be able o conceive so share the love. Dont kill the innocent baby. Best of luck
2006-11-28 14:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO however if you want to keep the baby it is your responsibility to provide for the child your mom can't force you to adopt him/her out but she has no obligation to help you. There are women's shelters for unwed young mom look up crisis pregnancy centers in your area.
2006-11-28 14:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She shouldn't be able to. And she shouldn't. Most girls are trying to get an abortion and give their kids up for adoption. Your mother should be proud that you actually WANT to keep your child. All I gotsta say is: MORE POWER TO YA SISTA!!! ;)
2006-11-28 14:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no! NO! your mom has NO right to make you get an abortion or give the baby up! that baby is YOURS!
2006-11-28 14:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by jmd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋