How do you live life not caring what other's think of you?

Question

When you know other's are talking about you behind your back, when you have always been there for them and had there back...how do you possiably live life knowing they are talking about you? How do you live life without it bothering you?

When you know other's are talking about you behind your back, when you have always been there for them and had there back...how do you possiably live life knowing they are talking about you? How do you live life without it bothering you? How do you just go on w/your daily life and not let it get to you?

How do you just go on w/your daily life and not let it get to you?

Answer 1

It's very simple, and get's much easier as you get older. I think that it got really easy for me once I got out of high school.

Answer 2

I have a friend like that and yes it is very irratating, however, maybe you actually realize the person that is talking about you is really the person that has no real friends and that really you are the one who is just keeping him/her afloat. Most of the time I just ignore what he/she says and just go about my buisness because the more you worry about it the mor frustrated you will become with it. Yes it is disappointing that your so called freind would do that buut I think that is just a way trhat some people are. Some people just do it out of shere jealousy, others just cause they are a mean person. Well do not get caught up in this web for it is not healthy, just be you enjoy life and pray for this person because they always say the strongest person is usually the weakest one at heart. Hope this helped, have a blessed day.

Answer 3

When I was younger back in elementary school I got very upset if somebody did not like me. It took me a long time to realize that I am a good person and if somebody does not like me then it is their problem. I try to live my life as a Christian every day. I know who I am. You have to work on this you need to like yourself more and know yourself. Do you feel that you are a good person if so then think about it who's loss is it. If you don't like yourself then I do suggest that you get counseling to help you with that believe me when you like yourself and you like the person that you are you will be OK and those things won't bother you. Somehow when you show that it does not bother you all of a sudden they don't enjoy talking behind you back. These people are acquaintance's of yours they are not your friends. Friend is a very special name for very special people in your life. It was told to me that if you have two very true friends in your whole lifetime you have made a great accomplishment.

Answer 4

There are some pretty shallow people in the world and those that talk behind your back are that kind of person.
I never had a lot of friends or be part of a crowd and I did not care. I did what I was interested in and found a few good friends along the way. Be happy with yourself and those that talk behind your back are just not the kind you need.

Answer 5

It is my belife that situations and people in our lives are there to teach us lessons. Your lesson may be to develop a self- love and self-confidence in yourself, and to live out your truth no matter what anyone else says or thinks. To do otherwise is to say that other's are better, more important than you, and you are essentially giving away your power to others. So, its not others who are controlling what you do and think, its that you are allowing others to so this to you. So you are acutally creating this problem, you and you alone. You need to embrace the fact that you are a wonderful and worthy person inside, regardless of what anyone thinks. This is difficult to do when you have been dependent on the opinion of others in order to feel good about yourself. It takes time and practice and a change of perspective on this subject. It's as if you need to erase the old program in your brain about getting approval and replace it with a newer, healthier program that says that you are fine just the way you are, in fact you are brilliant just the way you are. It takes practice and repitition and a real strong belife deep inside that reflects this new found philosophy. Wake up every day and read some inspirational material that reflects this new belife, either written by yourself or by someone else. Step into your fear. Risk disapproval in life, say and do things that you feel compelled to do, and do not worry about what others will say. You may also want to surround yourself as much as possible with people who accept you for who you are, and who understand and support you ideas and belifes. If someone is particularly troubling, sit down and have a rational dicussion explaining that you feel unsupported by their dispproval. Lastly and most importantly, examine your own disapproval of others belifes and behaviors, because we cannot expect others to respect and support us if we are not willing to do the same for them. As Ghandi has said, "We must be the change we want to see in the world". Good luck!

Answer 6

I understand what you're saying. I have friends that talk about me, even the ones that call me their best friends. When I comfront them, they deny it. It's just something you have to learn to live with. Don't let it get to you, seriously. Most of the time they say stuff because they're jealous or have something better to do. Someone is always going to be talking about you, life is just messed up like that. Give them something to talk about! And I'd suggest not telling them personal things because people like that have big mouths!

Answer 7

just oay them absoutly no attenton and when they look at you turn to one of your other friends and act as if you were saying something about the other one but dont really say any thing at all that way she wont be playing the game alone you can be in it to and if it is a supposped to be friend than mabey she was not the one to be hangin out with but you cant change the past but you can stop things from happing in the future and when he/she does the same thing to almost everyone and then wonts to be your friend again because nobody else will be her friend DONT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and then she will no how what comes around goes around

Answer 8

It will always bother you especially when you had their back. I guess you know who your friends are. With that I would be so angry that I wouldn't even care what they had to say, as long as I knew the difference. Besides "WHAT GOES AROUND,COMES AROUND". They will get what is comming their way soon enough. Just sluff them off. Pretend you never knew them. That is one way to protect your heart from getting hurt again! Besides you are better than that!

Answer 9

it's hard! but of course you care your human with normal feelings of being betrayed by your friends but in a way it's a good thing you found out that they are not true friends,try socializing with other people and remember it will make you a stronger person,keep your confidence high and think positive and things will work out,it will seem like forever but in time it will work out...people can be so mean to others but what goes around comes around
keep your head up high

Answer 10

Wow, for a long time i asked this question but umm...all you have to do is not be there friend, if thier gonna do that to you and still expect you to be there friend, thats wack!! And if they say something really bad, just egnor! Orget in their face and tell them to stop............Black-mailing is always good to.lol. 2 wrongs dont make a right, but it does make it even.lol