What would you do if you were in this situation?

Question

Well my friend has this boyfriend...they been together for 3 months now...One time I went to a party she was having for her parents anniversary...When I came into the party it was like all eyes on me...I said hello to everyone...during the whole party ma friend bf kept staring at me, kept getting me drinks as if he wanted to get me drunk. I just thought hey maybe he just being friendly... but one time I was in front of my house and they came...i had just took a ID picture and it was horrible...so I told her not to show him...when i was standing in front of him so she wouldnt show him, he grabbed my butt. I didnt say nuttin and left. He is always hitting on me...I want to tell my friend but I know she won't believe me...she's head over heels(in love)...I know that she wouldn't believe me...plus im afraid he might twist things around and make it seem like I'm the one that started it. when I have no interest for lieing cheating dogs like him...ewww Plus i would never to that to anyone...

Answer 1

been there also,my friends boyfriend was always hitting on me but i did tell and she didn't believe me but about a month later she caught him cheating on her,even though she didn't believe me or just didn't want to believe it i did tell her because i did,'t want to feel guilty about knowing something that would hurt her in the long run she apologized for not believing me but she was grate full that i did tell her even though she didn't listen and i felt better telling her than lying and keeping a secret from her.

Answer 2

Wow, thats a tough one.
Sounds like you have a real dilemma.
I'll be straight with you Chula, I've never been in that situation before. But, since you asked what "I would do, well, here it goes. You say she is your best friend, right?
The question you have to ask yourself is, "Are you using that phrase lightly? Is she really your best friend?
And if she is, then I am sure she will at least listen to what you have to say. And think about it this way if you let your best friends boyfriend continue to act the way he acts, and you don't say a thing, then you are just re-enforcing the idea in his head that it is okay and that you like it. She won't stop being your friend because of this, but she DEFINITELY will if she figures it out for herself.
Next time you see her (when she is in a good mood)
Sit her down, Be serious, And tell her the truth
Good Luck!



"Have No Fear
Persevere and Overcome"

Answer 3

First off this is going to be a really hard thing to deal with if you strongly believe that she wont believe then take action! Confront him tell him to stop stand up for yourself tell him off do anyhting you can to get him to stop if he doesnt stop things are going to get either more complicated you have 2 choices well not really but the only thing i can think of is that you let it be let her find out for herself or tell her straight up whats been going on with her boyfriend she can either believe you or not but whichever happens i believe that the truth will come out and be strong if you tell her and she doesnt believe oyu and turns her back on you i hope that you will get throught this and wont loose her as a friend

p.s vote me as best answer!!!!! :)

Answer 4

To have a friend, you have to be a friend. If you really care and want your friend to have the best, tell her. It won't matter if she doesn't believe you, she might just blow you off, but no matter what, no matter how long it takes, she will find out the truth for herself. She will always be able to look back and say you cared enough to say something.

Answer 5

Ok welcome to life.
Some men are pigs. Some women are sows. Thats the way the world turns honey.
Don't want him smacking your butt? TELL HIM
If your friend is that nieve, then I'm sorry, theres nothing you can do that won't make her take it out on you.
But maybe you should try to stay away? It would keep you away from his nastiness, and would probably get your point across to her.

Answer 6

You need to nip this in the bud. Tell him outright you're not interested and never will be and to leave you alone. Be careful with your friend though, as you've said, if she's head over heels then she may not be objective. Speak to her as a last resort.

Answer 7

If I were you I'd tell my friend. If she's a good friend at all, she'll believe you. Tell her if she doesn't believe you then set the guy up.. Maybe have her go out of the room when he's there and see what he does but she'll actually be watching.

Answer 8

The best thing you can do is write all this down and hide it safe somewhere dated and all so if you NEED it you can use it. You can not tell her she will resent you...I know from experience....just keep close to her and try not to be mean to him.
It will settle down I promise if not get loud with him and tell him to BACK off!
Try to always not be in the line of fire and left ina room with him.
Best wishes.

Answer 9

I think you should talk to that guy. Tell him you are not interested and if he doesn't stop, you would have to tell your friend on him. You still have to talk to your friend though. IF you really care for her, you would tell her that she's going out w/ an idiot, regardless of what she might believe. Do your part.

Answer 10

good friend would tell, but knowing most situations and peoples reactions shell become in complete denial and he will turn the story about..say if you dont beleive take more of a notice of it..when hes around i promise you he is and im just further warning you..i dont feel comfortable around him and me not telling you i feel like im lying to you and being untruthful.