how can my friend get her baby to sleep who's been fighting it ALL day she's tried warm mik&warm honey HELP US

Question

he's just over a year old and he never takes naps in the day and when bed time comes he just fusses and REFUSES to go to sleep untill he passes out from crying around 4 am...serious help needed!!!!

Answer 1

Give him structure. Have her put him down for a nap at the same time each day for the same amount of time. Same thing with bed time, same time every day. Make sure she has a routine for him. Even if he doesn't nap during the day at first, just get him into the routine of going into his room, this will get him familiar with the process and eventually he will feel comfortable enough in the routine to lie down. When he is persitantly crying, tell your friend not to pick him up or take him out of the place where he is napping or he will associate the crying with being able to get picked up or able to leave the room. Tell her to go in and check on him about every 20 minutes while he is crying to reassure him that she is still there. Children need stability and that comes from routines. Also before bed each night make sure not only does she keep him going to bed at the same time but to also do the same thing each night, ie bath, brush teeth, get into jammies, read story, whatever fits into their lifestyle that she can commit to doing every night with him so he can associate those things with it being time to go to sleep soon. Also it's important that she doesn't have him lie down too long. He is definitely at an age where he needs a nap during the day, lack of sleep during the day causes more trouble falling asleep at night believe it or not. Also, I'd have her talk to his doctor see what the doctor suggests and have his ears looked at. Often times they cannot tell you they are in pain and the signs aren't always obvious. She needs to be patient though, because this will take some time for him to get use to and adjust to and for him to be able to identify with. Often times they just need consistency and patience. But if this is something new for him, I'd talk to the doctor and I would also evaluate if anything has happened lately that is a big change in his surroundings or daily activity...


DON'T TELL HER TO MEDICATE HIM AS WAS SUGGESTED...THAT CAN CAUSE BIGGER PROBLEMS AND EVEN POSSIBLY LEARNING PROBLEMS. AT THAT AGE THEY ARE LEARNING THINGS OS QUICKLY AND THEIR MIND IS DEVELOPING SO FAST. DO NOT MEDICATE!!! VERY BAD!!!! YOU COULD POISON HIS TINY BODY IF YOU DO THAT! NO! NO! NO!

Answer 2

He needs a schedule and dont let him sleep longer than two hours at a time during the day. Dont let him take a nap after 3 in the afternoon. He should have a morning nap no longer then two hours and an afternoon nap at starting at 12 or, again no more then 2 hours. Put him in bed at those times during the day and let him cry soon he will get tired of crying and will go to sleep. Make a bedtime routine, put him to bed in the same bed he sleeps in all the time. Give him a bath, read him a story, give him hugs and kisses and lay him in bed and tell him Night Night. Dont go back in there if he crys, let him cry. Continue the routine for a week and he will evenually get used to the routine and will be tired naturally at that time at night. Put him to bed at the same time every night and stick with it. Good luck!

Answer 3

Poor little fella. There must be some reason he can't find comfort and go to sleep. I wonder if he could be crying from an earache ? IF this has been going on for a long time, hopefully, your friend takes him to a Doctor. Probably he is afraid of the dark. Use a night light or a comfy toy. Has he had some bad experience that would cause him to not want to go to sleep ? Please be patient with him. My little boy used to cry when he was hungry. Make sure he gets good meals and not just milk. I will pray that the sweet little fella and his Mom , can find out why. I pray things will get better , soon. Is there someone who used to be in his life, not with him as much anymore ? Could it be he misses grandma or someone else close to his little heart ?

Answer 4

He may be too tired to fall asleep since he doesnt nap. Honey is a no-no, it can cause severe allergic reaction in babies and toddlers. My granddaughter is 29 months and usually doesnt want a daytime nap but I found that if I put in a dvd of her favorite movie she will go to sleep but only after fighting it awhile, ie, getting up etc. So now no movies, darken the room by shutting the blinds and drapes, her favorite blanket, and I sometimes lay down with her and snuggler her up to get her cozy and warm. Some will say that is not the right way but it works and she takes her nap, plus I get a rest. At night I put on Shrek, turn the volume down and the lights all out, and shes asleep within 10 minutes, stays asleep all night. So maybe this little boy just needs Mom to snuggle him and get him all cozy-sounds like she needs a rest too anyhow. I know kids have to have boundaries but sometimes it is best to get the child to sleep at night so you can go to your own room and rest. As patient as I am with kids, I would have been pulling my hair out by now :-) Anyhow, I would take him for a complete physical and NOT dose him with drugs to put him to sleep. He could be ADHD or have other medical problems causing him to not sleep. If he sleeps with a bottle when he does finally go to sleep he could have a painful ear infection as kids sometimes let milk drip when they doze off. There could be any number of reasons why he is not sleeping, just try to be patient with him and try snuggling him until you can get him an appointment with his pediatrician. Snuggling him shows a lot of love and support and may just help calm him down enough to sleep. Oh and try whispering, sounds silly but it usually works, they have to be quiet to hear what you are saying. Good luck with your baby:-)

Answer 5

Quit fighting so hard!!! Make it a matter of fact experience...after snack, put him in jammies, get his favorite blanket or stuffed animal and have a "rest". Babies are going to fight tooth and nail...I think they think they are going to miss out on something. Before bedtime, maybe a nice warm bath will help..it has always acted like a tranquilizer with my kids. None of these ideas are going to work over night...she will have to be very consistent with these until it works. At this point you are creating a routine....a habit..and no habit is made overnight. It takes practice. Make sure the bedtime routine begins at the same time every night...the little man will expect it and actually learn to embrace the schedule. It will be hard but it will work eventually!!!

Answer 6

wow that sounds awful.
i'm trying to think of what i did with mine. He decided his bed time was 10:30pm or later untill about two weeks ago (he is now almost 3yrs)...
1. exhaust him during the day. make him do activities (body and mind), swimming is a good one.
2. the more babies sleep the more they will sleep... try and get him to take a day time nap (i found tightly wrapping my son and sitting rocking him or in front of boring television like oprah or dr.phil did the trick. He would cry for about a minute and try to escape the swaddling but eventually he gave up and went to sleep.) but generally steer clear of tv at bed time.
3. Feed him lots about 3 hours before you want him to sleep at night and give him warm milk at bed time to top him up. Most babies i know sleep better on a full tummy. Then swaddle him again at bed time and do the rocking/boring tv thing sound down really low.
4. don't make bed time too early to start with.
5. avoid television around bed time it seems to invigorate them.

Lots of people would probably think this was giving in to the baby and there are probably better ways but it sort of worked for me and I found that as language developed and his understanding of the world grew we were slowly able to come around to a proper bed time routine (bath, short play (no tv), books, bed).

I hope he turns overnight into one of those angel children you hear so much about...

Cheers,
Ruby.

Answer 7

My daughter is very nearly 8 weeks and is doing the top comparable factor. yet she sleeps throughout the time of the night. throughout the time of the day she additionally will purely have 10 or 20 min naps until eventually she is in our sling that i ware. i understand what you mean approximately no longer desirous to enhance undesirable behavior. because of the fact this modification into my challenge additionally. yet by letting her nod off in my hands or having a nap in the sling, she gets previous her overtiredness and then sleeps extra effective. she additionally will have one unsettled day and then catch up the subsequent. How plenty is he dozing at night and what time does he have is tub and bottle? Is it in a particularly room with minimum mild? you additionally can try combing camomile and spearmint tea which will help relax him and settle his tummy if he has gas. My daughter has an unsettled era every day from 5pm until eventually at last 9pm too, yet then sleeps properly in the night. All i will say is that to bear in mind which you're no longer on my own in this. I even have been instructed by my health center sister that what my daughter is doing is regular for some infants at this age, and that it wont final for ever. i know it is not common, yet draw close in there. additionally my daughter rubs her eyes and whilst drained and so i wrap her right this moment away and then rock her somewhat until eventually her eyes get droopy amd then positioned her to mattress. Do you wrap him? superb of luck, i desire issues get extra effective for the two one human beings quickly!

Answer 8

my little boy used to cry with naps and bedtime. we tried everything and nothing seemed to work, until we got him a toddler rocking chair. that became the only place he would take naps. at night we did 5 minutes of crying...check and pat...5 minutes of crying...check and pat...until he would realize that he had to go to sleep. get him a couple of cds with soothing lullabies. i was actually able to get him to sleep by singing sometimes. but, yeah, i totally understand. one thing you have to keep in mind is that the more he sleeps the better he will feel. and sleep begets sleep.

Answer 9

He needs to nap during the day for sure. Being too tired makes it even harder to go to sleep.

Personally at one year old I would be concerned that there is a medical reason for it. I know she doesn't want to hear it but she should consider a complete physical.

Letting him cry himself to sleep isn't helping the situation either, it will cause him to relate sleeping with fear/pain.

If there is nothing wrong her son physically (like pain or something) then this *may* help:

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070900.asp

Answer 10

If she could keep him up a little more during the day it would help. Otherwise, try a belly or back rub, rocking, singing or any of those light/noise toys for the crib. Also a white noise machine might help. Lastly, have the Dr, check him out for other causes like reflux, etc.