My wife found some of my porn collection and i need to know if being married and watching porn is ok and if u could explain why it's ok for the both of us.
2006-11-28 13:47:24 · 28 answers · asked by Malicious Intent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NEXT THING YOU KNOW SHE'S GONNA FIND U IN BED WITH A PROSTITUTE !!!
I HOPE SHE'S SMART ENOUGH TO KICK THE HELL OF YOUR @SS OUT !!!
2006-11-28 13:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Well, you are both adults, correct? That is something you both have to discuss and comfortable with around each other to know when it is ok. You don't go on to tell what happend when she found "some of your pron collection" which would be somewhat essential in giving a well rounded answer. But, in any case . . . if she is not comfy with it or does not like that you watch it, then I would try to steer off of it as soon as you can. You do not want her to resent you for it, but, maybe telling her that it's not the same to you as maybe it would be to her is a good start. That is something that very well can be enjoyed by married couples as far as different positions or ideas . . . . just for starters. Talk to her and assure her you only want to do those kinds of things with her and you might just "unleash the beast".
2006-11-28 13:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is OK when you both agree that it is. No one else can tell you whether it is or not. This is a decision that you both have to come to an agreement on.
Me personally, I don't care if my husband looks at or watches porn. It's just a fantasy, it's not real. He's not going to cheat on me. I trust him, and honestly if I tried to forbid him from it, he'd eventually get fed up and look at it behind my back anyway. So if I let him, and even sometimes watch it with him, at least I know what he's doing, and how it affects him.
2006-11-28 13:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Porn is perfectly fine to have, and watch when you are married. It is actually healthy. If you both enjoy watching it together then what are you waitting for? You are spending quality time together aren't you? At this point there shouldn't be no interruptions. Just the two of you sharing a intimate moment.Never know........ you might learn some new moves that really excite you! Have Fun with that! I know we do!
2006-11-28 13:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might of been hurt ya never told her before she found it. Porn is OK if both of you agree. We watch soft porn when we r both in that mood and heavier stuff when we want to get ideas, BUT we do it together so there are no hard feelings or worries. U can learn alot.
2006-11-28 13:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
of course it is, I have a porn collection and I am a woman, and my bf knows that I am not going to get rid of it even after we get married. Its healthy and fun. Why don't you watch it with her and have some fun, sometimes we have to teach our partners on how to open up and maybe she will find it as arousing as you do. You have to explain to her that what you are watching in no shape or form replaces her, its just something that you watch because its fun. She needs to remember that you are next to her at night and that you are having sex with her and not with women that you see in porn. Its totally cool!
2006-11-28 13:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to vote no and my only reason being the way it depicts women. It tends to objectify them and it is often implicated as an impetus in cases of serial murder and other sex crimes.
Now don't get me wrong. I am not suggesting that means you and your wife are going to watch and then go out and kill. However, as an industry, it promotes the above and therefore I find it a toxic and deadly substance.
Having said that there are some very erotic and loving films out there for couples and those I find no fault with for couples who would like some ideas on enhancing their sex lives. It's the hard core, S&M stuff that disects and objectifys women that I object to.
2006-11-28 14:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by outdone 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it degrades what sex was created by God to be for: an expression of LOVE between a husband and wife. Porn turns it into a thoughtless selfish act between strangers and can cause unhealthy appetites in a person and mostly curiosty and interest in others.
There are plenty of ways to satisfy each others sexual needs in a creative way without watching porn. Are you thoughtful enough to explore that way first instead of the lazy man's outlet...porn?
2006-11-28 13:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some porn I'd say is good. The old saying " I don't care where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home." Just don't let it consume you and take over your relationship. To get some ideas or to warm up the ole Libido is a good thing, just don't let it get out of hand. Hope I helped.
2006-11-28 13:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you married your mom then you don't need to hide your porn from your wife...grow up...watch it with her maybe you will get some ideas
2006-11-28 13:56:46 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm it is common for older human beings. perhaps a sixteen three hundred and sixty 5 days previous for a girl and 13 for a male. adult males have loopy hormones. If a girl under that watched porn i might suspect they had sexual subjects.
2016-12-13 16:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋