A friend of mine just got engaged to this woman who he has dated for less than a year. He got commissioned as an officer in the military recently. This woman keeps pressuring him to make the wedding date a little sooner. When he told her they need to wait until he's done with all of his training, she flipped out!. She kicked in the door to her closet and that very night they're busy exchanging every thing they've given each other. She also hates living at home. I'm trying to help him realize he needs to cut her loose, but he's so broken up over her. What can I possibly do?
2006-11-28 13:42:31 · 9 answers · asked by Thomas K 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him that if he felt the need to wait til training was over then he should stick to his convictions. Tell him to give it some thought on his trip out and think about the temper tantrum she threw and ask him to think about if this is the kind of behavior he wants to live with everyday for the rest of his life? He wants to go fishing, she throws dishes, he wants to grabs a few beers after work with the guys, she threatens him with divorce. he wants to go hunting, she starts bitchin and he thinks about loading an extra round (j/k) He will spend the rest of his time bending over backwards to keep her happy. Tell him give it long careful consideration on his next leave. And if he still feels she is the woman for him then to go with a blessing, and marry his little heart out.
2006-11-28 14:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a very serious problem.I know this problem should be solved by two lovers but as a friend we want to help settle whatever problem a friend may have because a true friend would always be there through thick or thin.Well if I'm in your part i would do the same thing as a good friend.All you have to do is plan a date just for the two of them inorder of course for them to talk the problems they have.Choose a perfect place,a romantic place indeed.Thats all i can advice also to you but if this thing will not work out do not blame yourself.The choice is for them to make.
2006-11-28 14:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by cro 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first and last few words is ,,,, "You need to stay out of it " Just be around if he needs someone to talk to or support of some kind ,,,, The way she sounds I wouldn't marry her if ten million dollars came with her ,,,, (Well wait a minute ,,,, Ten million is allot of money ) lol ,,,, Anyway you can't live his life for him and you can't deal with his problems for the same reasons ,,,, It's a possibility she's just in love with the uniform too ,,,,
2006-11-28 14:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll inform you from own journey because i'm bipolar.i'm no longer medicated and definite there are circumstances after I blow up yet many times because I basically carry it interior till I cant take it anymore.I hate the actuality that basically because someone is bipolar anybody thinks they're at no fault properly you're basically as a lot because the fellow who's bipolar.we are well-known human beings we basically get angrier ALOT swifter than maximum human beings.
2016-10-16 10:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by beaudin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if she flips out over setting a wedding date, imagine what it's gonna be like marrying her and having to deal wth her temper tantrums. But hey it's his life, good luck to him cause he's sure gonna need it with this child in a woman's body.
2006-11-28 14:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she wants what she wants instantly, has no conception of waiting, if he marries her this is what he will get, a woman who is self centered whose main focus is on her own needs. when we pick a partner, is it someone we can trust, how does that person act in a crisis, or if they don't get their own way? are they reliable, are they manipulative and controlling, does the world revolve around them? the behavior seen now is the behavior he will see once he marries her. maybe it is best if he waits and thinks about it. she hates living at home and wants to get married now so she can get support from him, she has needs he can meet financially. he needs to wait and not give in to her demands until he is sure.
2006-11-28 14:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to decide on his own, anything you say right now will trun against you, just support him. hopefully he will see how crazy she is and will get out of that relationship.
2006-11-28 14:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by JJ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is be there for your friend. Anything you say, he will not see...... he has to see for himself.
2006-11-28 13:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has HER balls...............Wheres HIS?
2006-11-28 13:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dale D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋