Everyday I face my childern oldest son do not like me hates for me to touch him. Husband do not talk to me just walk pass me like I am nothing to him. Don't have a life . Want to go to school but can not because of money. Husband is in school ask him for help and he says nothing to me. I need my GED . I have dreams but do not know how to go forth. Fall in love with a married man thinking that he will be different just to know that it is only sex. Help me please I need to find me and know what the hell is going on in my life. My childern is never happy I always scream and cry every night .
2006-11-28 13:39:22 · 13 answers · asked by Nikki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Good evening nikkii--FIRST: I've known many who have had thoughts of suicide. The hotlines, or suicide numbers to call can be helpful to you, but only of the "person" on the other end truly cares & is competent enough to "explore" your feelngs. You may be asked: :"Have you had anything to drink tonight? What happened tonight that made you feel this way?" & so on. I suspect they do the best they can, but this is not ALWAYS helpful. Your ENVIRONMENT seems intolerable. Your best statement was: "I need to find me..." FOCUS ON THAT. It is so easy to "fall in love" when you aren't getting any. & what a disaster that can be. It's only a substitute for a decision you have to make. (Married men are the pits!) Perhaps, (I say as kindly as I can), your oldest son is picking up on your discontent. But, bottom line, the motivation for the attitutude of your son or husband is irrelevant to the impotency of your life as you describe it. NOTHING seems going on in your life. You aren't totally reponsible for your children being happy or not. Yet, you MUST take responsibility for your own well being. Great! Your husband is going to school! No money for you? There is much assistance at your fingertips, on-line. ACCESS IT. I do NOT see any resolution to your problem (as little as I know of it) but to get OUT of it. NO ONE should scream & cry every night. You have more options, & power than you'd ever dream! One last note: I knew someone who called the "Crisis LIne" & was on it so long, her call was traced, & the police REMOVED HER from her home, & put her in a very depressing psychiatric ward. That's not to say you can't get "help" or "advice" but be very cautious.
#1--look at what you've said about your life--look for options. #2--if you don't know how to do this on your own get HELP. My most sincere concern for you. PLEASE DO NOT CHOOSE SUICIDE. The best is yet to come! It may be a "long road" but worth it!
2006-11-28 15:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people feel this way so i want you to remember that you are not alone. Everybody at one time in their life faces a large amount of hardships all at once. We were put here on earth to help each other overcome these hardships so get a really close friend that you feel you can tell anything to and hang out a lot. Everyone could use a close friend
And remember, suicide is never the answer. God put each one of us on this earth for a reason: to accomplish something. Everybody that has ever grazed this planet has accomplish something to better the people around them and you will do the same. You just have to find that one true something
Get involved with something you love weather that be tennis, knitting, or some other local club or commitee to help take your mind off of your temporary depression. Life goes on and everything will be okay in the end.
Remember: if its not okay, its not the end
Dont make it the end.
There are people in your life who care about you. Although it may not seem like it, im sure that your son and your husband both love you, and they would not want to see you leave this earth.
Just give it time, and stay confident, and youll pull through this. :)
2006-11-28 21:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by onekewlpenguin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your children are following your husband's actions. If your husband hits you, don't follow this advice: Tell your husband you need to talk with him and let him know how you feel. If he seems angry or like he doesn't care, then you need to talk to someone outside of your family. Please call 1-800-SUICIDE. Your life isn't very happy now, but that can change. I will be thinking about you.
2006-11-28 21:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get help NOW. Call your local women's shelter or your local suicide hotline. They will be able to refer you to someone who can assist you and help you realize your dream. Even if your husband isnt abusive they will have a list of counselors and other professionals that can help, These people will usually take your income into account, and wont charge much if anything. GO! CALL NOW
2006-11-28 21:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by sngcanary 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear you feel this way and are being treated like this it is unfair, but don't punish yourself or do anything to hurt yourself you deserve more than that, put your foot down demand to be heard and listened to don't let them bring you down you know what you can do and what you want to do so go and do it (i mean school) and if they don't want to be a part of this then kick them out, but follow your dreams and your needs cause your not a piece of furniture, you deserve more cause you have a heart to
sorry if i started to sound a little dominant i hate it when ladies are treated this way
2006-11-28 21:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put your troubles in Jesus' hands. Go to church, talk to the minister, they don't charge like therapists do and they have psychological training.
The more you think about suicide the more likely you are to attempt it. The more you think about Jesus those other thoughts will go away. God Bless you. He does love you. You are in my prayers tonite.
2006-11-28 22:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats crazy talk, why would you even contemplate suicide, thats just silly, even if they dont love you, you still have a mother and a father(maybe) that love you, so get that stupid **** out of your mind and think about the good things you have in life, i dont know about your education though.....so yeaaa, get that sh!t out of your head
2006-11-28 21:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Guitr Playrrr 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take your family on a tropical vacation. You will all grow closer and you will be happier. Please, if this doesnt work, all sit down for dinner and have conversations...you will eventually grow closer and happier and you'll want to stick around for that.
2006-11-28 21:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by lysette.oxo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
go out of your home some days, they will see that they need you and provably respect better you!
if not, leave them and find a better home :-)
2006-11-28 21:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gary_Hobson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this is what you do...you should invite God into your heart if you dont know him and pray that God will help you and it will seem like its not working but you have 2 keep asking and dont give up .......
2006-11-28 21:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by erica 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋