Ok so my daughter hasnt seen her father in about 6 years( he walked out on us). well his girlfriend of 3 years just found out that he has a kid and SHE wants to meet her (just her not with her dad) and Im confused...why would she be doing this? She wants to take her shopping for christmas and hang out for a day....Im not sure what to do. My daughter wants NOTHING to do with her dad.
2006-11-28 13:28:14 · 14 answers · asked by its just me....♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell you ex's GF to take it on a hike. She has no business wanting to know your child. And for that matter, neither does your ex. Be strong, and best wishes to you.
2006-11-28 13:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by FRANKFUSS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should respect her boyfriends wishes and HE should be involved in anything that they have to do with your daughter at this point. Your daughter is bound to ask questions why her dad isn't there with the girlfriend. What would she say? "Your dad didn't want to come? Just me." That's not right.
This is something that they should do together. (The dad and the girlfriend) If that is what the dad wants. It's up to you and your daughters father (And your daughter). Of course the girlfriend will probably be involved in any decisions HE makes. But HE should be the person to decide to see her. Not the girlfriend. If that is even what your daughter wants. If she is old enough to make the decision then let her decide. Otherwise, you are the mom and ultimately know what is best for her.
2006-11-28 13:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that she feels that even though the father is not responsible, that SOMEONE should be.
I did that with my husband's oldest daughter. He didn't keep in touch with her because she would cry that he couldn't come see her (she lives states away). I tried to get involved in her life because I didn't agree with him, I thought that since I'm in his life now, I should be involved.
It's not always the best idea, but she might have good intentions.
ASK HER
Just explain to her that though you appreciate it, your daughter is not wanting to be involved with her father or his life (i assume she is old enough to be making these decisions at LEAST 13+?) And just let her tell you what she's trying to do.
Like I said, she most likely has good intentions or feels guilty for his lack of attention :)
2006-11-28 13:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by kswildangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make her go...she wants nothing to do with her father b/c he walked out on her...it should be her decision if she is old enough...so respect her wishes and let the GF know that your daughter has no interest in anything dealing with her father.
2006-11-28 13:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she wants to meet your daughter herself and not together with your daughter's father is a bit strange. Technically, she has no relation with your daughter ... her only relation is through the father of your daughter, but she is leaving him out.
I would be cautious of her motives if I were you. You said you are confused... trust your intuition.
2006-11-28 13:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by MeerKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids aren't that old, but I'd say honor your daughter's wishes. It sounds kind of fishy to me. Did your ex maybe put his gf up to this? I wouldn't trust it at all and if your daughter decides to do it, do not let her go alone.
2006-11-28 13:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by armywifehaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 08:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how strongly you feel about this decision. Just talk with your daughter. She may discover that she may not want to do it. If she does decide to do it, then go with her when she goes cristmas shopping.
2006-11-28 13:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Becca! At The Disco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would NEVER trust my child with a complete stranger. Let her know that under NO circumstances are you going to allow your daughter to go anywhere with her. What a creepy hizzo.
2006-11-28 13:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol maybe she wants to be your daughter's step mom...which she doesn't need at all~ because she has a great mom, i.e. YOU.
tell your ex to take his girlfriend AWAY from you and your daughter.
i don't understand the women who try to mother children who already has a loving mother.
2006-11-28 13:31:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋