Okay, so I'm really overprotective-- of myself. Especially when it comes to boys. I am a very focused highschool student, so sometimes I inadvertently shut them out, and I think I intimidate them. I think they believe I'm hard to get to know... but I promise I'm NOT at all. At first I think it's just because you know I'm strong and confident, but it's getting to the point where I think I'm becoming unapproachable, especially at a time when I wouldn't mind being approached. How do I become softer and more likable?
2006-11-28 13:11:18 · 17 answers · asked by *** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I guess I just don't wanna look like a slut...
2006-11-28 13:33:53 · update #1
Sorry, guess I didn't realize you cant say s L u t.
2006-11-28 13:35:07 · update #2
I get that sometimes, too. Just give people a friendly but not too inviting smile. However, dont change yourself too much...if you are a focused, confident and strong person, you would want to attract guys that have the same traits as you or even more otherwise you'll end up being the dominant person in the relationship and you dont want that.
If you change yourself to something you're not- you'll be attracting the wrong people.
Just be a bit friendlier by smiling more often- my husband said it was the smiles that were missing before with me, that's why everybody thought i was a snob! =)
2006-11-28 13:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Beachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let your guard down a bit. You say you are unapproachable, I think other people find you arrogant, and for that reason do not care to approach you. Jump out of your shell every now and then. It will not change the person you are, only help you grow...
2006-11-28 13:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Roxie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, still be yourself but make a point of stopping to chat at lunch or in the library, laugh when someone says something funny... just be friendly and interested in others and everything will be fine.
2006-11-28 13:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by swirlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i am going through the same thing. i mean there are guys who ask me out but i just turn them down becuz i'm either not intrested of think that it would mess me up and i wouldn't be able to concentrate of schoolwork. but i guess you should just become friends with people so they think you're friendlier and more warming and approachable. hope this helped.
2006-11-28 13:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by MMSfaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u definitely sound like someone who would be intimidating to a guy. Just try to relax when you want to be approached, or even approach others.
2006-11-28 13:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in middle school and have the same exact problem! I was just about to ask about the same question, then I saw yours so I am going to watch it and see what poeple say. Your not alone.
2006-11-28 13:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice and don't shut guys out when they try to talk to you. Most guys are really nice you just need to give us a chance!
2006-11-28 13:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by firedemonedge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lighten up a little bit and don't take everything so seriously. Just relax, enjoy getting to know others and let them enjoy getting to know you.
2006-11-28 13:16:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope... i dont think so.... its just a projection of yourself... boys would know if you're approachable or not... and i find it challenging for girls to be a little snobbish..... i love the challenge!!!
2006-11-28 13:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by bugi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be a little more unprotective with a guy you trust, but a guy that you don't trust, stay the way you are right now!!!
2006-11-28 13:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by claudia V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋