i found out he was cheating on me w/her thru emails messages and pixs of her half naked she had sent him. its been so hard 4 me 2 let go, cuz i truly loved him & he dares 2 denied that something went on, he says they only talked. why can i just move on, i left after 5mons of problems been married 10 yrs have 2girls 2gether he doesnt even provide for them, its been 3mons that i left. everytime he can sneaks around & takes my cell phone always telling me to go w/my socalled friends that called me. I havent meet no one & if i do they usually dnt last after hearing my drama. i want 2 B strong & B able 2 move on just like he did & treat him like shiet just like he does 2 me, why do i jump everytime he says jump, he sneaks around at themiddle of the night (@ my place), he shows up @ clubs if he knows im there how can i B strong & stop him making a fool of me, i love him & everything but i know hes sleeping w/her, im the wife i shouldnt be his 2nd choice! how do i get out & not look back?
2006-11-28 13:06:47 · 5 answers · asked by HelpmeFast 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i left his house, i just cant keep begging him,i dont do it so much now that i really know who he is been with. but a portion of me wants 2 believe the part of him not sleeping w/her. he asked me out & we end up arguing 4 anylittle thing & i end bring her up, he never answers when i ask him if its over with them too! how do i be strong and not jump everytimes he says!!
2006-11-28 13:14:48 · update #1
How do you get out? You need to recognize that this man has a pattern of treating you like dirt. Do you not think you deserve better? And, most of all, what kind of environment are you two providing for your children by being together? Anger, mistrust, suspicion, lying...not healthy for your kids.
2006-11-28 13:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and get yourself some counseling. and do it quick. This will help you to look at the situation clearly. You deserve better, and you surely do not want to set this as an example for your daughters that this is an acceptable way for a man to treat you. He is the one cheating and he wants to keep you and have his cake and eat it to. Just face the facts that no matter how much you love him, he is not going to stop. It is more about who he is and what he is lacking as a man and less of who you are. Of course it hurts and of course it will take some time to get over him. You are going to have to be strong. And stop telling each man you meet about this situation. They are going to keep running away, you don't have to explain anything to them regarding your past relationship and why you are not with him. And keep in mind, if you want to keep getting what you have, keep the same behaviors, if you want better for your self, then change the behaviors. Or you will keep getting what you have. And no one deserves to be treated badly, you deserve better. Get some counseling. Check out a local domestic violence agency, what he is doing is considered emotional abuse, and stalking. Get a restraining order and let him know you are serious. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-28 13:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a complete asshole, jerk and control freak!!!!
the reason that you can't move on is because you keep letting him treat you like a doormat,how can you love someone who treats you this way!!!!,the reason why he checks up on you is because he wants to have his cake and eat it ,it's okay for him to cheat on you, but it's not okay for you to cheat on him,same old f__cking double standard!!!
at least you left the house,think about yourself and your daughters
get into you and who you are,you can do it, I know it's hard
but you deserve so much better,get rid of him and get everything you can out of him,stay strong and good luck!!!!
2006-11-28 13:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters often are paranoid because they know the mind of a cheater...that is why he is so jealous. If not for your sake, get him out of your life for your children...he is a horrible influence on them. Good luck and be strong.
2006-11-28 13:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! because you heart is broken, and you did not expect him to break it....My wife cheated on me too....it hurts....I got over it by giving my life to God....He is love, and hates a broken heart, He will heal you, teach you how to be strong too.....All you have to do is invite Jesus into your heart.....may God bless you.
2006-11-28 13:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋