This is a serious Q that I really need an answer to. First brief intro, I am a 24 yr old single guy who is saving virginity till marriage. But I am a high hormone guy so I have been indulging in masturbation and porn to release my hormones. It has become quite a habit as I have been doing it for the past 8 yrs. It is very, very hard to go a week without masturbating to porn. I usually masturbate to porn at least 3 times a week.
But I recently came to think about how my habit will impact my future wife in marriage. I have been thinking, "Will my future wife be ok with me masturbating to porn 3 times a week? It is not a cheating, right? So will she think of it as no big deal? What if she gets hurt by seeing me masturbating to porn instead of being with her?"
Here goes my Qs.
1. Do you approve of ur husband indulging in porn,mb at least 3 times a week? If yes or no, why?
2. Would you consider it a cheating if ur husband would engage in mb, porn instead of spending time with you?
2006-11-28 13:05:47 · 14 answers · asked by nicesinging1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I would not approve of my husband engaging in porn with or without me. We are supposed to be supplying one another's needs. I do consider it cheating if both parties have discussed it and have come to an agreement that it not be a part of their marriage and one still indulges, then yes it's cheating. Some wives would like for their husbands to make them the object of his desires, and that's what I'm looking for.
2006-11-28 13:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well first off, congrats on waiting. there arnt to many men that do that and i look at it as a really good thing. second, the masturbating thing will be a big *** problem. 1 because she is going to feel that she is not fullfilling ur sexual needs so u have to turn to porn and ur hand. 2 its going to take up a lot of time and im sorry to say but women love attention. women love it when men make it all about them durring sex and the fact that ur only worried about u getting urs is going to start some problems but to answer ur other question....its not cheating.
2006-11-28 13:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should be aware that masturbating will only lead to you not being able to do anything without your hand when your older, men who engage in this now and that many times a week will find themselves without it later on in life and even to make love you will have to help your self before she can even help you. Your body will only respond to you and not her.
I am married and yes my husband once in awhile will watch porn but I watch it too, there is nothing wrong with.
I don't consider it cheating if I am watching with him.
Before any of this happens you would be wise to let her know up front and be honest about it and why, that way she won't be surprised.
2006-11-28 13:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well i'm a bit touchy on this subject with my own hubby...it's your decision to not have sex til marriage, and i have not prob's whatsoever with masturbation. Great for a single guy who chooses to have no sex. But i do think the porn is a form of cheating. Your wife will feel like you require airbrushed beauty, silicone implants and drugs to get off. And after all we are only women and are rarely perfect, but we are beautiful in our way. You may happen to marry a woman who's happy to participate in this with you, and then there's no issue with it. I believe your partner should be enough....without the porn...
2006-11-28 13:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by holdengal81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
# 1. Yes its okay for my husband to indulge in his own pleasure...To a point.
# 2. No its not cheating...
As long as he shows me that he is physically/sexually attracted to me and it doesnt interfere in our love life. There are times I just am not in the mod but he may be...Thats ok...Just make sure you give her the time and attention she needs. Never choose porn over her...You never know she may be into the same things as you (Porn or Mutual Masterbation)
2006-11-28 13:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by nekiawhitaker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see how your "need" for porn changes once you're married - you may not "need" it.
If you would rather engage in porn than interact with your spouse, then you have a deeper issues that go beyond whether your spouse has an issue with it. If porn starts REPLACING interaction with human beings, then it sounds like you're addicted.
2006-11-28 13:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with my husband watching porn. It's not cheating in my book, HOWEVER porn instead of me is unacceptable.
You should always choose your wife over porn if she is available and willing.
2006-11-28 13:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure you will need the porn once your are married or are you addicted to it? Who knows, maybe when you get married you wont want to use the porn anymore. But for your questions, if my husband looked at porn it wouldnt upset me, but if he paid more attention to it than me or if i saw him masturbating to it when he knew he could have me, then yes i would be upset.
2006-11-28 13:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is not cheating
Masturbation is normal
Both combined is normal
Maybe when you are married you won't need a porn fix 3 times a week.......then again, maybe you will
Your wife may be into porn
If your wife is not into porn, she may not object to you viewing porn
Then again she might - so it's best to respect the missus
Don't sweat the small stuff
2006-11-28 13:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The reason that you do what you do now is because you are saving yourself for marriage.
When you are married, you'll have the real thing and won't feel compelled as often to do yourself.
Do I think porn is cheating? No. Men are visual and it's a fantasy for them. And there's the old saying "if you can't beat them, join them". Works for me.
2006-11-28 13:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋