"Love Yourself"-A lot of people say that, but what does it mean? When you grow up damaged by being raised by

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parents who did not show self love or love for their children, then how do you even know what self love is, especially when you do not march to societies norms, thus are continually misunderstood and rejected. So, what do you mean when you say, "love yourself"
What does that look like?

Answer 1

i understand where you are coming from, i grew up with similar circumstances. i started by saying i love you to my parents. they didn't say it back for years. no one in my family said it. but i kept saying it, and first my brother said it back, then my sister, eventually even my parents and mean ol' grandma say i love you. that's a good start. spread the love you feel for others. share a smile. share your glow. once you find the joy inside of you that makes you sparkle and light up inside, remember that feeling, and realize you can feel like that every day. your attitude is a choice. surround yourself with pleasures, big and small. an extra few minutes in the shower, taking the time to brush your hair, staring up at the stars, smelling the fresh air on a breeze....there is so much beauty in the world. loving yourself means that you always remember that and take the time to find it.

Answer 2

Well it doesn't look like anything, and living by society's norms has nothing to do with it. Loving yourself is just that. You love being you. You are not ashamed of who you are. You like everything about yourself and are proud to show it off. Loving yourself is having confidence in your abilities, competence in your endeavors and respect for your self. Loving yourself is saying "I don't care whether you not you like who I am, because I do, and I am the only one whose opinion matters" Loving yourself is taking repsonsibility for who you are. Being raised different or being seen as "weird" has nothing to do with loving yourself. Other people should not dictate who you are. If you love yourself, they won't, you will.

It should also be noted that you can not love anyone else untill you love yourself. Because no one else can really make you whole, only you can do that. I hope you learn to love yourself

Answer 3

There is a small child no more than 4yrs of age.
She has a pretty face and beautiful eyes.
Her laugh is like an angel singing, and her smile touches every heart.
She trusts, she believes that the big people are Gods.
Some of the big people yell at her and tell her she is naughty and stupid.
One day a man hurts her and she thinks she must have deserved it cos she is naughty.
She doesnt tell.
She stops laughing, and smiling, and nobody notices, nobody cares.
So the big people who said she was naughty and stupid start to tell her to stop sulking, and they dump and they dump and they dump on her.
She stays outside for long periods of time because to go home is a lonely place for a little 4yr old girl when she feels like she is a burden to them.
"Why cant I be good Jesus" she asks
" Why am I so naughty ?"
" Will you love me when I die "

If you saw this little girl and she ran to you and wrapped her little arms around your neck and begged you to help her...would you respond with love??????
You were once 4yrs old.
She may as well be you.....treat yourself with the same love and compassion you would her.

Answer 4

I am truly sorry you had such a bad childhood, but you can still love yourself. Be proud of yourself, you don't need other people to do that. Sometimes people raised in the worst homes turn out to be great human beings, and do a lot for mankind. Just hang in there and keep loving yourself and being proud of who you are as an individual.

Answer 5

To love oneself is to know that regardless of any outside influences, parents included, you are still valid. Loving yourself means knowing that you're self worth. It's about respecting yourself and demanding, in a respectful way, respect from those around you. It's about having and unconditional understanding of your own character. It's about forgiveness, which is not always easy to give. It's about digging deep into your own psyche to understand what makes you important and unique. It's about not letting other peoples opinions, actions or words stop you from being you. You have to develop a relationship both emotional and spiritual with yourself. Just like any relationship, it must be nurtured. You should always be kind to yourself and always listen to your instincts. If your parents weren't a good example, set your own example. Navigate the ideas of what you think it means to love yourself and create your own definition of self love. It's not easy, but nothing in life worth having is.

Answer 6

Hey there,
Don't allow others to dictate what is the standard of loving yourself. To me, loving yourself means having a positive outlook on life and continually fixing things that you think could help make you a better person. Whether that be physically, emotionally, psychologically, etc etc, always strive to be your best in order to learn to fully love yourself. Also, only surround yourself with those who have a similar mindset and see you as good and focus on your strengths, while helping to improve your weak spots. Gluck!

Answer 7

First one has to know who they truly are before they can actually love them self properly. We are not these bodies, minds, jobs, races, religions etc. we are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul. This world is called Maya or illusion and is temporary and full of misery. We have to reconnect with Supreme Soul, then we can understand what actual love for self and others is. We have to water the root of the tree and then then whole tree will become nourished. We have to understand our Maker, Creator also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, etc. We have an eternal relationship with Him and if we do not Love Him first then our love to self or others will fall way short. Read the Universal Path to Enlightenment on stephen-knapp.c there are many e-books there on the topic of Real Love and happiness.

Answer 8

If you could get into the habit of seeing all that is positive about yourself, all your good qualities, and focus on them, you would learn to love yourself. You don't have to accept other people's assessments of you. You know yourself that you are a good person so say to hell with them; it's their problem. In the long run, it's how you feel about yourself that counts, not someone else's disfunctional attitudes. Look in the mirror every day and say, "you're okay, you're a lovable person."

Answer 9

Adoption is approximately love...i admire my toddlers with all that i'm...yet love does no longer triumph over all. It would not end poverty, or ailment, or alcoholism, or the different real issues by using itself. Love can motivate, regardless of the undeniable fact that it would desire to be positioned into action. And adoption is likewise approximately loss. the two a sort of would desire to be recognized. As for "stored" toddlers--this would not recommend the start discern enjoyed them extra or decrease than a toddler located for adoption--it could have only come all the way down to situations on the time of each toddler's start (activity/no activity, homeless/have a house, addicted/sparkling, youthful and naive/older and wiser). no longer all first mothers and fathers located their toddler/ren out of love. that's a fairy tale. some first mothers and fathers would desire to no longer discern their toddlers for the excuses listed above, and the government made this decision for them.

Answer 10

Look at yourself in a full length mirror and try and accept what and who you are.once you can accept yourself you are half way there, it is NOT your fault you felt unloved, it's not you who have the problems but the people who treated you so bad. as for rejection which is not very pleasant try to have a more positive outlook on life, smile or laugh more these 2 commodities are very contagious, you'll find people smiling back at you, a smile can go a long way in life, Good luck to you.