I am a 36 year old single woman. Everybody else in my family is married and everybody is always telling me what to do. It seems like, in my family, if you are married, you have your life together and if you are single you need a great deal of advice from everyone. I'm getting sick of this!
Has anybody else had to deal with being single in a family where everyone is married? In family pictures, everyone poses next to their husband or wife and I am stuck somewhere in the middle or on the sides. Holidays with my family are miserable!
2006-11-28 13:04:23 · 9 answers · asked by ahhihello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I feel your pain. I didn't marry for the first time until I was 40. Until then, I had to deal with stupid questions about why I was still single, why I didn't have a boyfriend, why I was so choosy and rumors that I was gay.
Unless you are going to your married friends and family for money, food or advice, they have no business being in your business. When this happened to me, I was polite about it at first. As time wore on, and it got to be really annoying, I started telling folks to back off. Basically, I said:
1. I am happy being single. If and when I meet the right guy, it will happen when it happens.
2. Why are you all so preoccupied with my marital status? How does it affect your life?
3. I'm managing my life fine, thank you. Focus on your own.
I got some flack, but I wasn't going around promoting the single life, and respected people enough not to interfere in their lives. All I was asking for was the same consideration.
Frankly, both families and holidays are overrated and stressful. If you're not up for the drama that they try and heap on you for being single, just make other plans. If they want to know why, then tell them.
2006-11-28 13:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm married, but I can tell you this: most marriages aren't perfect, and more than likely one of these couples is having problems and some bad stuff is going down. Be glad you're not married. Just remember that when someone is going on and on about how great marriage is. If there's anything you can say like, "yeah, I just can't wait until I'm married so I can put up with my husband sitting on the couch with his hand down his pants", whatever you might be able to get a little dig in about, give it a try! Maybe that person will shut up for once! Good luck!
2006-11-28 21:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing. I am not in a rush to hit the alter. My entire family is trying to get me married off. What is the big deal? I am completely content with my life the way it is now. I will get married if the opportunity presents itself. Holidays with my family are miserable too...That is why I am going on a trip with other single friends for Christmas. I am going to have a wonderful time this year WITHOUT the family.
2006-11-28 21:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Meg...Out of Hybernation 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I remember when I was single and my friends would try so hard to set me up with someone. That didn't work out so well. If you are living well on your own then you are doing great. If you want to find someone, as long as you keep your eyes open, you will. If you are never to get married, that is better than being married and miserable.
2006-11-28 21:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i sorta know what u mean. i just now got engaged with my bf. but all my friends have babies or are engaged or married already until then i was always the odd one out. don't feel bad. u can be married when ur ready and it doesn't matter what anyone says. as for the portraits why not bring a male friend or a love interest.
2006-11-28 21:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by playboyprincess6904 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your talking about. Yes im 40 and single and my family always telling me. But i have my own apartment and that is my happy place. I dont allow it to go on in my apartment. I love my family and they have truley been there for and i feel i owe them alot but they wont bring it to my happy place. they know me to well. But i would give my life for them.
2006-11-28 21:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are trying to tell you what to do/set you up with guys because your window of having kids is closing...
2006-11-28 21:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Sensitivity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's misplaced concern. They ultimately want you to be happy and settled. Wherever that leads you...
2006-11-28 21:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by holdengal81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god yeah and I'm married.
2006-11-28 21:08:34 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋