SEX, Wait or Not?

Question

Sex, do u think its better to wait for the right person, or is it no big deal to do it with whoever...?

bashers please do not answer...

Answer 1

OK i'm not going to push my values on you. But it's really up to you. When you get married and start having sex with your wife, do you want her to lean over in the morning and say "Oh baby, you're on my top 20 lovers list!"or would you rather know that you are the only one she has ever been with and ever really will be with?Also, if you have sex now while you're young and you think that the person you are with will love forever, guess again. If she can't wait for you, chances are, she's done it to other guys just like you. And if you have sex, it usually means you care very deeply for the person you are with. However, if you marry someone who has had sex before, that means that they have "deeply" loved others before you and left them. Which strengthens your chances of her leaving you. It's just all around beetter to wait until you're married, because that way, it's like your spouse is the only person you ever really loved enough to surrender yourself to, and it will give you a longer lasting relationship. And you will have a much happier marriage and life.

Matthew, I know that there are going to be many mixed answers here, but just listen to me on this one. You can always lose your virginity, but you can never get it back once you've lost it. If you feel like an outcast because you aren't an anybody's man, you shouldn't. You should feel dignified that you are too good to settle for someone who only cares about your body; but that you are waiting for someone who cares about who will not be able to have sex when he's old. They will love for your entire life, and not just until they've had their share of orgasms.

Answer 2

The standard line is "wait until you find the right person." I don't really hold to that, myself. I was 21 when I lost my virginity and did it mostly because I was sick of being the only one in my group of friends (or, rather, my whole hometown!) to not have sex.
I will say that if you're just going to do it to have done it, pick a friend, someone your pretty close to. You don't wanna remember your first time and think "D amn, I should've gotten his name" or something equally bad.
So... whether you wait or not, make sure you actually like the person and that you'll both respect each other in the morning.

Answer 3

IT's completely up to you. If it feels right, then go for it. Be safe and sane. Make sure your partners treat you with respect, and say No if it's not right for you. Your gut gives the best answer. There is nothing wrong with sex, so don't get worried because you are interested in it.

Answer 4

I don't think there's anything wrong with sex without love, as long as you use protection, just that there isn't much of a point in it. My girlfriend and I have decided to wait for now, we don't want to have sex until we are sure we're ready.

Answer 5

Seriously, wait!! I (technically (depending on who you ask!!)) lost my virginity when I was about 14 (**shame**). BAD MOVE!! You don't have to wait until marriage (which, if you're gay and in certain countries, is impossible (**sigh**)), but at least wait until you are in a serious relationship. You'll be much happier.

Answer 6

If you want to wait for your pefect guy go ahead. But if you want to experience sex so you can gain experience for your time with your spcial guy, go ahead. I would try a few times, then settle down and wait.

Answer 7

To each their own. Different people have different ideas on what sex is and who it should be with.

Answer 8

You should wait, because when you finally sleep with someone (who is hopefully your spouse), it will be amazing. You will be glad you waited. Trust me.

Answer 9

ignore those bigoted jerks! to me, waiting for the "right person" is the best. I did...and I'm happy!

Answer 10

better to wait for the right person--no brainer!!