2006-11-28 13:01:49 · 27 answers · asked by ginnyp82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stop snooping
2006-11-28 13:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 5⤋
How old were they, and did they occur after u
got married to him, what ever the case if his
actions towards you are still the same loving
and caring husband hold off for a few days,
then approach him and say you were cleaning
around the house and happened to discover
some old e-mails of his and see what his re-
sponce is and if he is the loving and caring
husband he will have an explanation and will
probably want to get rid of them as this is
the right thing to do; however if u have noticed
a change in his behavior towards you for quite
some time , approach him right away and ask
him directly has these e-mails been the result
in his changes to you, then according to the way
he responds you will know if any red flags are
up. As for your continous relationship with him,
either way ,that is something that you will have
to determine as to what the ouitcome would be.
2006-11-28 21:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have gotten rid of them when you two got serious. Guys just dont have any sense these days. They think they can do whatever they want and us women will just take it.
Women need to start taking a stand again. We need to stop taking so much **** from these men. They expect us to be a certain way, yet they live by a whiole other set of standards.
We let them lie to us, cheat on us, etc. yet we still stay because we "love them". I say screw that.
If he loves you as much as he says he does, those emails will be gone within seconds of you bringing them up. If he was decent to begin with, the emails wouldnt exist once he got with you. Men are so inconsiderate. Imagine if it was the other way around, if you had old emails from your ex and he found them. I would be willing to bet that if he found those emails you had, he would have a fit and might even leave you. He'd go on about how if you loved him you would have gotten rid of them, yet I bet he wouldnt feel the same about him having those types of emails. Sorry to say but there is such a double standard when it comes to men and women.
Yet here you are asking people on Yahoo! Answers what you should do. What you should do is get mad, get angry. I am not knocking you at all, just bringin up a point. Quit putting up with **** from these men.
2006-11-28 23:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. If these emails were while you were married you would be wise to keep them.
2. You need to confront him if he has been cheating on you because that is messed up.
PS This is how to get a confession (from a man with a conscious, let him think someone he knows told you something or that his ex herself told you, so you can get the details. I did this to my boyfriend after I found out he had a secret myspace account. I hacked into his account and found out he was chatting with some hooker in our town (not a real hooker, that just what I call loose girls) and was arranging to hook up with her, I confronted him and told him, that someone had told me and that I knew what he had done and that he should confess now. Before I knew it, he was crying and apologizing and we haven't had any issues since and I snoop because I love my man! There's no shame in it!
2006-11-28 21:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tristen T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Casually ask him if he still talks about sex with his ex, if he says no, you might have somehting to worry about. Or you can just ask him about the emails. Make sure the date is when you two were or were not together, so you wont look stupid or whatever.
2006-11-28 21:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by sundar k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casually ask him if he still talks about sex with his ex, if he says no, you might have somehting to worry about. Or you can just ask him about the emails. Make sure the date is when you two were or were not together, so you wont look stupid or whatever.
2006-11-28 21:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Old emails? As in, before you were married, emails, or after you were married emails. If they were before you were married it is possible that he just forgot about them. If it was after you married, then you have a problem - the least of which is you being a snoop!!
2006-11-28 21:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask him what the heck this is all about and that he needs to explain all this in detail. Don't settle for the ..." Oh it's really nothing...we were just funnin...." if you settle for a wimp out he will walk all over you from now till the inevitable divorce.
2006-11-28 21:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should confront him about it, print them all out and bring it to the dinner table, serve that for dinner, and ask whats going on. If he starts to make excuses just tell him to get out. I wouldn't spend one day with a man who was doing that. But if that was before you two were together, then you should just tell him that you found it and it bothers you and you would him to delete it. Don't get mad though if it happened before you two were together! good luck
2006-11-28 21:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make copys of all of the emails and then confront him with them. Keep extra copys cause if this goes to court you will need them to get all you can.
2006-11-28 21:04:33 · answer #10 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is...was he with you when he was emailing her? If it was before you then it's in the past and you should let it go. If he was with you, I would confront him and then get rid of him. If you can't trust him why be with him?
2006-11-28 21:12:13 · answer #11 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋