2006-11-28 12:57:37 · 16 answers · asked by baby_04ever 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
because you fall for the wrong guys...if you actually went after what it was you really say you want (women as a whole) then you would have better luck...
2006-11-28 12:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems that familiarity often breeds contempt. The things that drive us crazy for a person during the courtship phase often morph into intolerable behaviors once the relationship owes less to lust and obsession than to quotidian hair-in-the-sink realities, money hassles, difference of opinion about how to raise the kids, etc.
A lot of people just put up with growing resentments and eventually explode over them (especially women - I do think men are more likely to be up front about what's pissing them off).
By the time they get serious about fixing things they are already beyond repair, so they break up, and then the hard part starts, usually one and sometimes both of them realize you really DON'T know what you have till it's gone, but so much damage has been done, so many trusts broken, there is rarely any hope of a reconciliation.
2006-11-29 08:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when we fall in love, we tend to become vulnerable because we feel that the other person is so perfect, or at least close. We feel like the other person would be the last person to disappoint you and the first person you can count on. Rose colored glasses come off and you are in for the rude awakening.
2006-11-29 00:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by raven dismukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, noone said falling in love or love itself would be easy.
Noone ever said that you could get involve with someone without ANY emotional attachment unless you're in for a 'booty call'.
Relationships are hard, simple as that; it's work in progress & a lot of compromise for the 2 people who're in it.
2006-11-28 21:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just learned that the heart is desperately wicked and we get hurt because we do not make wise choices in relationships, instead, we tend to follow our hearts.
2006-11-28 21:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we use the word "love" much too freely.
You really don't fall in love as much as you think you do. And, if you do and it hurts it is okay. It is supposed to. Learn from it and let it make you stronger instead of weaker.
2006-11-28 21:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well because the people we love the most have the power to hurt us the most because we give it to them. it's like when one falls in love they're blind to certain things and they aren't expecting certain things so if and when the unexpected does happen it's like a hard blow to the heart. if you are hurting i hope you'll be ok soon.
2006-11-29 09:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anna Banana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF it hurts, then it isn't not love... :-(
Perhaps it has to do with the way you're interacting with your partners? There's a wonderful book you can read on the subject. It's in my "know your source".
Good luck, and take care of yourself, hugs xoxo
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2006-11-29 03:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we EXPECT them to be who we WISH they COULD be in OUR MINDS. When we need to love them for who they are in reality. Love is so easy to keep, just wake up every single day and look at the person you love and remember WHY you love him/her! What IS IT about her that you love? Why her? Do this everyday and you won't take her for granted, because you'll always remember how lucky you are.
The biggest loser to love is indifference. That is, WE ALLOW OURSELVES TO FORGET.
2006-11-28 21:19:17 · answer #9 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happy and sadness go together. You can't one without the other and love needs both people loving each other not just 1
2006-11-28 21:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by sara a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋