Lately me and my husband seem to fight, fight, and fight all we do is argue about everything and I do mean EVERYTHING!!! I want to be happy with him because i love him and want to spend my life with him..but i don't know how to avoid the fights..please someone help me please let me know how I can be happy and not lose the love of my life.Thanks
2006-11-28 12:34:59 · 11 answers · asked by tasha o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have the exact same problem, he'll yell at me if i leave the trash basket too close to the fridge, but we love eachother soo much, everyone gets in those modes. Been married 9 years, and we've have our share i t doesn't get better but it doesn't get worse all relationships fight. Just find something u can enjoy together that will get you laughing. My husband and i always find time to watch everyone loves raymond so we laugh together its great.
2006-11-28 12:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to visit with a marriage counselor and figure out what you are really fighting about. It probably isn't who left the garage door open or forgot the start the dishwasher. One or both of you is resentful of something. Once you figure it out, you can work on it.
Also, work on your arguing skills. Don't poison your relationship with more baggage by fighting unfairly.
2006-11-28 20:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u don`t believe in God, but u could pray 2 God 2 help u with ur husband. Maybe u could try just 2 b quiet when he starts with his fights. Then he would know nothing 2 say n then just talk happy n satisfied 2 him if nothin happend.
Hope this will help u!
2006-11-28 20:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by wanna b me 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its more him than you... I would not participate in the arguements... let him do it all by himself... I would just stare at him with this look of "who cares on my face" and walk off... to argue... a person needs someone to argue with.... so if you stop... than what is he to do it with... there will be times when its something that needs to be discussed and thats different... let him know that later you want to calmly sit down and talk things out... but not now while your on the verge of a fight.
Now if its you that starts it... stop it... hope this helps
2006-11-28 20:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
option #1: sit down with him and talk it out. tell him you love him and how you dont like to fight.
option #2: take the blame for what he gets mad at. dont tell him it wasnt your fault. guys like it when you admit to doing something. regardless if you're the one that did it or not.
option #3: surprise him by making a romantic dinner one night. go out of your way and let him know how much you car about him
option #4: if you have kids, dont argue in front of them, it could affect how they act and/or theyre grades
option #5: dont be the one to start the arguments. try being like jesus. :]
2006-11-28 20:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by blonde_caligirl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry things are so bad. You two should go on a date, and while on the date, calmly put all of the things that are bothering you out there. He should do the same. This way, you can work things out in a calm way (no one yells in restaurants...or at least, they shouldn't!) and you can both try to work on your problems.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 20:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling to help work things out if possible.
2006-11-28 20:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you try to talk to him honestly about it?how you feel about the fighting and then you can find out how he feels about it...just try to control your selfs...good luck...
2006-11-28 20:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by kondiii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um not fight... or you could do what many women do and just be a "yes babe" or "your right" wife. or just talk about it
2006-11-28 20:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by enano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be offended if you arent "religious" but in my opinion you need God. i wish you the best
2006-11-28 20:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋