i am moving 2 hours away from my family and freinds to go be with my boyfriend who i have been with for the past 5 years. and i want to be engaged so that i feel like i am leaving everything for more than just a boyfriend. i mean we do talk about marriage but thats in the future after i finish college! please help am i wrong to want to be engage?
2006-11-28 12:29:11 · 12 answers · asked by willow7186 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no of course not
2006-11-28 12:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Zana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong, but I think that down the road when you're married you will wonder why you put so much emphasis on the engaged concept. It changes nothing about your relationship. A ring is just a piece of jewelry. Tomorrow he could wake up and say he never wants to get married. It is not that difficult a promise to break. Don't panic, don't worry and don't rush. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it doesn't really change anything between you. If you can't just go to him because you love him and believe you have a future together then that insecurity is only going to breed resentment and hard feelings if you expect it and it doesn't happen or give an ultimatum and it's not met. Live in the now and be happy! What an exciting new life you can have!
2006-11-28 21:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with this guy for 5 years, he isnt going anywhere, you seem in a rush to be engaged to him even though you dont plan to marry him untill after you finish college, even though you guys have talked about marriage it doesnt seem like you have thought everything through concerning your education and whether or not it would be put on hold if youre moving two hours away, your education should come first, if the guy wants to be with you then he would be understanding that you need to finish out your education where you are and not take you from it, you are going to be with him in the future so why not have a discussion about him possibly moving there or some sort of conpromise so that the both of you can get everything that you need out of your life concerning education, keeping friendships, and maintaining a relationship with your family so that the both of you can be more readily stable before taking the next step to getting enaged or married...
2006-11-28 20:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But being engaged to you means to you that there is a reason with hope for you leaving everything behind. That is not what engaged is for. One can get engaged and unengaged just as quickly.
In other words, make your decision based what what is good for "you" and if you find that you made a mistake don't be ashamed to admit it and come back home.
Best of luck.
P.S. Keep in touch with your family and friends.
2006-11-28 20:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, and 2 hours is nothing compared to how far away I moved! I moved from Ohio to Florida, leaving all of my family & friends behind! Just make sure that the boy feels the same, although I'm sure that after 5 years, he probably does! :)
Follow your heart!!
Best of luck to you!!
2006-11-28 20:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by oracle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, but it would make it much more difficult to get to college. And you wouldn't be moving away for just a boyfriend. If you love him, he's more than a boyfriend.
2006-11-28 20:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by XicutinSumFun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't asked yet - aren't you being a little presumptious? You are moving just for him! And if he is what you want and he's worth it....2 hours is not that far!!! 2 hours is nothing! I live 2000 miles away from my family!!!! No worries - go and see what happens!
2006-11-28 20:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This would depend on if His feelings are the same as yours. I dont see anything wrong in moving closer to him to see if that is what you both want. I would search more on a really sacure relationship first. Makeshure it would work out. after all marrage is a big step. this will change your life. so make shure he is the one.
2006-11-28 20:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by valerie s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. In fact, I wouldn't move UNLESS I was engaged, preferably, married. Finish college first, then move to be with the bf - if he's still your bf by then!
2006-11-28 20:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a After five years STILL NOT ENGAGED either you are young and If that is the case I really recommend DATING OTHERS....if not why no ring????? sounds like you are convenient ... You can be engaged but still not get married till after school is done ...What is his feer of comitmant???
2006-11-28 20:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by SE7EN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How will you finish college if you move two hours away. That is a serious drive.
2006-11-28 20:31:07 · answer #11 · answered by LaRue0715 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋