My friend just told me today that she was anorexic!!!!im scared because she told me to tell no one and i swore not to , but i dont want her to hurt herself. pleaz i need help on this one. if i tell, she wont be my friend and she is my BFF 4 eva and i dont know what to do. pleaz help!!!!
2006-11-28 12:22:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If she's your "BFF" you NEED to tell someone so she can get some help. She may be mad at first, but I think she'll come to understand that as a friend you are almost obligated to help her. In fact, the fact that she told you that she is anorexic could be a cry for help, in her own little way, without actually asking for it.
The fact of the matter is that anorexia is a BIG problem...a life threatening one, at that. You may save her life. Would you be able to live with yourself if something awful happened, knowing that you could have potentially saved her life if only you told someone...
If you love her, tell someone...she'll thank you one day...
2006-11-28 12:28:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are in school together tell your school nurse and mention that you are genuinely afraid for your friend's health and that it is impertive that you remain anonymous. The nurse will call her in and ask her a few questions and will try to help her the best way she is trained to. Nurses are aware of the extreme sensitivity of anorexia patients. She will most likely tell your friend that either a teacher or some anonymous student had expressed a concern over her so it is likely that she'll never know it was you. When she comes calling you to tell you the nurse called her in just be supportive and of course, if she asks you if it was you, deny it. Maybe later in the future when you two are older she'll understand you were just looking out for her but she may not now. Try to be supportive and stick up for her. Do not encourage any thinking that skinny models are glamorous, etc... Perhaps even sign up for a health class together. Anorexia can be a life-threatening disease if it progresses too far and at some point she will begin to notice her hair falling out. Many of the people who eventually do recover from anorexia suffer permanent organ damage so it is important that you try to get help for her. Perhaps you could even talk to her mom privately IF you think her mom would keep your confidentiality and if you think she has a good enough relationship with her mother and if you think her mother will care. Good luck.
2006-11-28 20:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, she's your best friend, you love her. Try to help her the best you can, if you don't see a change and she lives with her parents then you should say something. Don't think of it as betraying her, think of it as you are saving her life. You don't wan't to lose her forever because you weren't strong enough to do the right thing. No matter how skinny she gets she will keep seeing herself as a fat person. I know because I was there at one time. If no one steps in to help her she wont just hurt herself, she will starve herself to death. Belive me, it doesn't take long for someone to become a severe case. I wish you the best of luck and I will be praying for your friend.
2006-11-28 20:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by nancy v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to have her allive and mad at you than dead and unable to feel anything. Shell have a lifetime to get over the anger. Even if she were mad at you forever, it is never wrong to do the caring thing for people you love. If she knows she is anorexic then she might be ready to ask her for help. Just keep being her friend and working on her to talk to someone who can help. Take her to a pastor or counselor or a cool friend's parent or older sibling. Dont keep her secret though.
2006-11-28 20:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should tell someone. Yes she will get mad at you and probably not be your friend for awhile but wouldn't you want her around living and healthy than to die. If you try to get her help than you are showing her that you are really a true friend.
By your friend telling you she was anorexic she is admitting to having a problem and that is the first step to any recovery.
Good luck to your friend and you.
2006-11-28 20:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Popins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this may seem like a really hard thing to do, but you have to tell someone, preferrably an adult that you trust. Don't be scared to do something about it just because you are afraid that you will lose her friendship. If it means saving her life, that is what friends are really for.
2006-11-28 20:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your best friend forever as you say, then you WILL tell. Yes, she will be mad, that is until she gets help and begins to recover. If she is mad, keep sending her cards to cheer her up, stand back and wait for her to get better (a true friend would) and when it's time to talk tell her. Yes I told because your my BFF and I can't stand the thought of loosing you. So I risked our friendship to keep you alive. If you never speak to me again for the rest of your life, I will always pray that it is a long, successful and happy life! When it comes to my BFF's safety and life, I will tell ANYTIME, ANYWHERE and to WHOEVER will listen so as to keep them alive. Life is too precious and besides, knowing how serious and life threatening this disease is, it is unfair of her to ask you to place that kind of burden on your conscience. How will you feel if she dies and you never told??? Not me baby, I'll squeal like a pig to save my BFF!!!
2006-11-28 20:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by foxfire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell an adult you trust, like a teacher or something. That way that person can contact her parents and express the concerns that way it does not get put on you. Honestly though you should really tell someone this can be very dangerous, and what if something happens to her and you didn't tell.
2006-11-28 20:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're her friend, you'll either convince her to get help or your tell someone. My niece had an eating disorder when she was in high school. If she hadn't gotten help, she would've died.
Tell her that she means too much to you, and you have to do what you think is best. And if saving her life makes her not be your friend, then so be it. She'll respect that and love you for it later on.
2006-11-28 20:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in situations like this and i understand how hard it is to keep a secret if you know that the person is in danger.i feel that the best thing to do is to get her help.talk to a counselor at your school or call a hotline for her.she needs more help than she may realize
2006-11-28 20:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋