I have a question. This fellow co-worker and I have been hanging out at work a lot. We email each other all through out the day. Funny emails, just to make each other laugh. I am really attracted to her but I don't know if she is with me. Everytime I go into the break room she follows me. We start talking and joking around. A couple of times we've hung out after work, going shopping. i've noticed a couple times she's called me babe. I've never had someone call me that before. To be honest I like it. Yesterday we were at the store looking at pop trying to decide what to get when she walked up to me and put her elbow on my shoulder and said what she wanted and then called me babe again. She has said she had an ex-boyfriend and as we were walking by this one guy she said he had a nice smile. but when she was told he thought she was cute she said she was totally not interested. She doesn't want to date.
2006-11-28 12:20:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sorry, i didn't have enough room. Anyway, today she gave me her lotion that I love. which I wouldn't think much except that awhile back she told me that she shows that she cares about people by giving them things and doing things for them. I would think she's just a normal friend except that when we talk, our eyes seem to linger longer than I would usually like. But she seems a lot like me, where I would see how far I could go and then back off and seem disinterested. So I know the game. But from what I've described, what do ou think? Just friendly banter or flirting? I'm not in a position to let her know that I like her or that I'm into girls at all.
I did ask this in another section, but I figured I'd get another perspective here.
2006-11-28 12:21:42 · update #1
If she likes you and you like her just be friends for now ,but when she is ready to date then let her do the move first. Don't scare her away. Let her do the first move so you know she is ready to date. Just be friends with her and don't put pressure on her. Then she know she has a friend and maybe more.
2006-11-28 12:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by af12af3af 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you two are flirting and both at least a little bit interested. This is the reason there's so many lonely lesbians. They're all waiting for the other woman to make the first move!!!
2006-11-29 01:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a little fun with this. try to ask questions that would infer that shes interested in girls. for example ask her something like, would you rather kiss angelina jolie or brad pitt. or something like that, i cant really come up with anything more creative but i hope you get my point.
also, maybe friendly flirt back with her. give her hugs, hold her hand when bringing her somewhere
from what i read its both flirting and friendly banter. theres many different types of girls. lots of girls like to be "over friendly" but dont mean anything in regard to feelings. jus friendly things. im this way too.
i love to fool around with girls but i dont think i could ever see myself with a girl sexually. i do like to hug, kiss, hold hands, and things in that manner.
so your friend might be like me, or she might like to be with girls.
can't tell for sure until you tell her your feelings or ask her about her feelings towards you.
hope i helped and not confused =D
i wish you the best of luck and figure everything out.
2006-11-28 20:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by its_me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent decision, do not let her know you like her, let her be the one to say Im interested. She might be thinking that you are not gay because you have not aproach her yet but be patient let things fall in place at the right time and trust me they will. You will be telling her I remember I used to like you but I never say anything...good luck sweetie!!
2006-11-29 13:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you weren't in the position to let her know how you feel about her, so I'd say you've answered your own question. Keep it simple! If it's meant to be, it will happen naturally down the road.
2006-11-28 20:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by rwpudge 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the common message people give is: Just tell her. There might be a sneakier, more subtle approach, but you seem to want this to progress. So progress.
2006-11-28 20:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should invite her to dinner or something and talk to her about your feelings and just tell her and see what she says if she doesn't like you she will tell you and just tell her that its OK and tell her that she doesn't have to feel weird around you because she might if she ain't into girls. But it seems like she likes in in return
Best of Luck!!
2006-11-28 23:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Miss. Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can care for someone, without id leading to a relationship. she may just want to be your friend. if you have a feeling that she wants more and you do to just ask her what she's looking for out of you
2006-11-28 20:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ron N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋