I had a misscarriage four months ago. I'm still mourning for my child. Is this normal? When will this pain go away?
2006-11-28 12:20:31 · 10 answers · asked by babydannysmommy 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
i had a miscarriage myself and yes it is normal to mourn b/c it was still a baby, no matter how far pregnant you were. it will take a while for you to get over the pain, but just know that god took it for a reason !!!!! my thoughts and prayers are with you.
2006-11-28 12:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think the pain will ever go away, losing a child is very difficult because you gave life and had it inside of you and the baby was taking in what you were eating,drinking etc. My mom had an abortion before I was born because my Grandparents on my dads side were going to take my brother away if she didn't because they didn't like my mom. She still mourns about it because her fetus died. I think it's normal but if it is taking up space in your mind all the time maybe you should actually talk to someone about it and express your feelings, it might make you feel better. Talk to a close friend, or a close family member. Don't waste money on psychologist or psyhcyhotrist (spelled wrong) which ever one of them is the right person that takes your $500 for 30 minutes. But I hope this helps and again I am sorry for your loss.
2006-11-28 20:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by hawkhead91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can see that it's very normal to mourn for a long time. A few things that might help you find some closure - did you have any kind of ceremony for the baby? Did you name the baby? If not, it might make you feel better to have a memorial ceremony where you can express your grief and say goodbye to the baby in a formal way. Maybe there is some kind of gesture that you would like - to plant a tree in memory of the child or light some candles or whatever works for you. Invite some friends who can understand.
2006-11-28 20:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i been thru this with my best friend it will take time to heal. If this was ur first child it will prob hurt more but dont let it keep you from living your life. I believe things happen for a reason what the reason is i dont know but im sure you will have beautiful children in the future. Dont mourn the child think of it as a miracle for the while that you was pregnant it was your child just because he or she is no longer with you he or she will always have a special place in your heart. im sorry for ur loss. Time will heal ur pain.
2006-11-28 20:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. Mourning for your child is normal. Sometimes it does take some people longer than others to get over a death especially that of a child. Give yourself time and try not to rush yourself through it. Grief is a natural emotion.
2006-11-28 20:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. All women are different but you may mourn for quite a while. It only becomes a problem when you can't enjoy your other family members. If you are hurting them then see a doctor. You may needs some counseling or medication to get you through this time.
2006-11-28 20:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your position is very normal. Women are known to get physically and emotionally attached to individuals or objects that tend to have a long term effect on them like a death in the family, personal injury etc. Its clearly natural for you to mourn for that child because it would be the same way as if you had lost a family member.
~!~Nicole~!~
2006-11-28 20:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by dead_killer_angel25607 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its very normal. The pain will never go away, but will lessen with time. Just know that there is help for you out there, and if a year has gone by and you are still fresh with the pain, it might be necessary for counseling and or medication. You have my heartfelt sympathy for your loss, my dear.
2006-11-28 20:29:32 · answer #8 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister also suffered miscarriage. She cried and very depressed. But my brother-in-law consoled her lah.
You didn't do it on purpose mah! If you do it purposely, then you must feel guilty. Correct.
I backpacked to Thailand and visited a high reptuable monk in Nakon Nayok province. He did a ritual and my sister get well. I didn't tell my sister about this. Now, my niece is already 6 months liao! Hah...
Bottom line is, get yourself well and be sure that your husband accompanied you.
2006-11-30 23:34:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, my mom had 3, i just glad i wasn't one of them, she had 3 children and 3 miscarriages so i had a 50 / 50 chance
2006-11-28 20:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by Dolfanmiamiman . 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋