My best friend?

Question

Im a guy. I told my best friend I have a crush on her. (I even told her that even so i just wanna be friends until she becomes avalable.) Im 18 and shes 21. And now she won't talk to me. What gives? how do I fix this friendship? And if I need to give an apology, then what for? (just asking. :D)Thanks in advance!! = )

Answer 1

I think you should give her space, let her think about it, and I don't think you should wait for somebody, how can you live with yourself knowing that some one else will be kissing her lips? just have fun, there are so many women out there, if you keep some distance sooner or later she will come to you.

Answer 2

I commend you for telling her. So many People Let a good thing pass by without trying and 10 yrs down the road always wonder the What If?
Not real sure about what Kind of Damage you may have caused with your comment about until she becomes available? so hard to offer advice. I'm Guessing that Maybe she has a long term Boyfriend? and If that IS the Case then Yes you should Apologize and tell her that you didnt mean to step on any toes. If you are a True Best Friend then you should be there to support her and Not Be trying to break them up :-s

Good Luck, Best Wishes

Answer 3

Well, it's not that she doesn't want to talk to you. She may not be interested in you, but still she is a woman and would thus like to have you hanging around her, even knowing that you have a crush on her to feed her ego. The problem is that she went and told her boyfriend, to make him know that she's desired. Now the jig is up and the boyfriend knows that you're not gay and you've got more in mind than shopping with her. He has called you out as an improper relationship for her, and she has dropped your friendship because of it. In fact, she was only hanging around you to get the attention in the first place, because she's not secure and her boyfriend kind of dumps on her. I hope this clears it up for you. Now, if you're not willing to throw in the towel on my advice, your next move is to find someone prettier than her and have her see you with this person. Pay her to date you if you need to. Your farewell freind will come running back to the table, within 2 days, act like her blowing you off was just due to her being busy. You must then play off the other girl she saw you with as just another one that likes you, but subtly let on that you like mystery girl.. let your former friend pry for info. Do this, and you will at least have your honor, and maybe more. Good luck, my son. Go forth.. conquer!

Answer 4

She's probablly at home contemplating what you told her like, is it worth hurting the friendship if it doesn't work or will things be different if we take it to the next level and feel weird.

To fix it first find out how she feels, if she wont talk to you write her a letter explaining if she doesn't want to date you , that you'll understand but would still like to be friends. Tell her how you feel maybe she'll open up more, if she still won't talk to you then she didn't feel strong in the friendship anyways so you should move on, at least you tried :-)

Answer 5

I think she might just feel awkward around you now that she knows that you like her.
I don't think you need to give an apology, since you were only telling her your feelings.
Erm...how to fix the relationship, well, there is not much you can do. Just go to her, and say that you still want to be friends, even if there is no hope of her ever going out with you. I know that you want to go out with her, but if you also truly still want to be her friend, I think it is best if you tell her that.
Oh, and when you want to talk to her, don't sound desperate, if she refuses to talk to you, then I am sorry, but I think that the relationship is truly gone.

Answer 6

Number one that's the worst thing you could have done.
However that damage is done. So next best thing is to apologise for saying how you feel, No harm in that. Tell her you understand that she may not feel the same Thats okay. But could we still remain friends.
Then what you do is find someone and start dating. It would make her fell alot more comfortable and take the edge off the relationship of how your feelings were or are towards her.

Given time she may have feelings for you lateron.

Answer 7

Maybe she doesn't like you back and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings so she doesn't talk to you, or she might think you are too young. You shouldn't apologize to her since that is the way you feel about her, but you should call her and tell her you want to still be friends and send her some flowers. If she doesn't talk to you still, give her time.

Answer 8

Sometimes telling someone whos in a relationship that you are attracted to them...makes them pull back..because they care about their partner and are taking their partners feelings into consideration....

For instance..a few months ago a friend of mine told me she was attracted to me..i havent talked to her since, because I know my partner wouldnt be thrilled me spending a lot of time with someone who is already attracted to me...ALSO if I wasnt interested in someone in that way....the friendship has already been strained to one point by putting her into a corner..not sure how to react..

I have seen several good friendships ruined when one person tells the other they are falling for them.

Answer 9

Prolly she wants to just be friends and she thinks you're rushing her into something. Call her and tell her that you wanted her to know how you felt, but that you just want to be friends for now.

OR

She may be playing hard to get. In this case, ask her out for coffee. She may take this as an apology or she may think you're "asking her out" out. Ya know?

Answer 10

well mayb beacause she is in a current relationship and the age difference and 2 top it of she probaly don't want 2 ruin yall friendship bcuz just recent i had da same prob but the other way around