Im 45 male restaurant guy for many years..7 years ago restaurant was doing poorly, We decided to reverse roles she was more than happy to step out once our youngest was 10..I stayed doing pt restaurant work while she climbed the cooporate insurance latter.
During that time I've been the homemaked while working pt..she seemed happy never complained..during our 25 anniversary she had an affair (we've been toether 30) her first love when she was 14 came out of the blue and off she went..I tried to save the marriage she just kept on cheating..now we had some problems like most marriages but even our 2 adult kids never saw it coming.
Now I have no career no education some support...off maybe making 35k as some rest.mgr. while she off makin 120k.. what she does know is that I know I can complain to the isurance commissioner because she has done 3-4 fraudulent claims..shall I ruin her?
2006-11-28 12:14:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so glad that you asked this question first before taking on revenge. I have been in a situation 3 times that I wanted to take out revenge on someone for doing me wrong (not relationship related).
Once my anger was over, each time I prayed to God thanking him dearly that I did not take out my revenge on the other person and ruin their life.
I hope you think again and again and again about this before taking any type of action against your spouse. You still have your life, your kids, your job, so sorry to say but "move on"
Don't hold the information against her as well as a blackmailing. I am sure that you benefited from the results of the 3-4 fraudulent claims while married which makes you dishonest as well.
Last, don't forget that what ever you do also effects you, your life, and the life, happiness, and well being of your kids life.
Take care.
2006-11-28 12:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just be the bigger person and leave her without taking revenge. Revenge might seem nice now, but in the long run it would be petty. What good comes from ruining somebody's life even if they did hurt your feelings. Just remember, she is still the mother of your children and everything that hurts her will end up hurting your kids.
2006-11-28 12:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? Thats low. Listen....your pride got raked over the coals. Be thankful that you're rid of the lying, unfaithful and cheating tart. Who knows...pray hard enough, light a few candles and maybe she'll get diagnosed with a fatal disease.
2006-11-28 12:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not ruin your spouses career. You are not going to accomplish anything by doing it.
I have seen many military wives ruin their husbands career by telling their commander that their husband cheated on them, and what did they accomplish by doing it, nothing.
Please do not take your dirty laundry out on the street. It is not worth it to you or your family.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 16:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just lowers you to her level for you to turn her in. Work it around to your advantage ... she makes a lot more money than you do ... sue her for spousal support and take the house, car, etc. and make her pay your debts. ... She couldn't do that without her big paying job.
2006-11-28 12:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, everything will work itself out. Whatever you do wrong to her will come back on you. And if you're still married, just buy yourself stuff with her money. That's what I'd do.
2006-11-28 12:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by bb4pb510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In doing so, will that make you feel like the bigger person? Will that take away the hurt and anger she caused you? Probably not...it will just make you as slimy as she is.
2006-11-28 12:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Ain't nuttin' better than sleepin' with a woman who's been passed around after you met her father.
BOOOMMM!M!!!!!M!MM!!!!!!!! IN THE MACHINE
2006-11-28 12:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by DoorKnob 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no just sue for alimony. She'd do it if it were reversed.
2006-11-28 12:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do that she will just take revenge on you...
2006-11-28 12:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋