when to move on?

Question

3 years ago i left england and took a flight to florida. I didnt intend to ever come back. Withing a few days i met a fellow brit. We had absolutley nothing in common except the fact that we were both running away from our lives. Anyhow me and tom became as close as brothers. That year was the best, we had so many crazy adventures and met so many crazy people. Then due to money problems i left with my girlfriend and reluctantly returned home. Tom stayed on but after spending 2 years there he got deported. Many bad things happened around that time and tom went over the edge and attempted suicide. In the beginning when he returned home i visited him and even though his depression affected me i still tried my best to help him, but he pushed everyone away and he said thats how he wanted it. . Its been a year since we spoke. I call but no awnser, not even from his mother.. Should i keep trying or let him be. .I happen to know he is alive, mutual friends say i should persist, should i?

Answer 1

He probably needs to get his act strait. Write him a letter tel him how much his friendship means to you and that if he ever needs you that you'll be there for him when he's ready. The balls in his court now.

Answer 2

You should keep trying. He is your best friend. If you cant get a hold of him go meet him at his house. Just because he says he wants to be alone doesn't mean he really does. He just needs a best friend and that is you.

Answer 3

Depressed people sometimes recover on medication, but the depression may recur and there is nothing you can do to help if the case is really bad.

Answer 4

back off. Let him know you are there when he needs you but let him make the first move. Dont push him in a corner.

Answer 5

I would say give it one final attempt. If he still refuses to talk to you, let him be. At least you know he is alive.

Answer 6

let him call when he is ready