What would you do. Im 19, I just got accepted to college. I have a 2 year old daughter...?

Question

And i just found out im pregnant again. I was in a relationship for 4 and a half years with the same guy. He beat me up and called me names and i left him. But now i find out im pregnant again. Should i keep the baby?? I know i will be raising it on my own just like this one but i dont know what to do. Can someone give me some mature advice please? thank you xoxo

Answer 1

i have to agree with that one person who said to follow your heart. i've been in a similar situation as you're in now, and i kept my babies. and we're fine, i've got a job that i'm accelerating very quickly in, and i've married a better man.
you can do it, you just have to want to do it. and if you don't want to do it, then don't put your kids through the hell. take care.

Answer 2

If you are trying to ask for advice about whether or not you should keep the baby (the new one)...then you have already made up your mind.

Whatever you do I would not get back together with this guy just to make things easier.

Whichever choices you make in life you need to make with the understanding that they will stick with you for the REST of your life. If you don't make college happen you will kick yourself for a long time. I know, I've been there. I gave up the Navy and college because I found out at my Navy physical that I was pregnant. I made my choice and I am happy with my life but I do have some regrets. (Not about my kids, but missed opportunities) However those are the choices that I made. Someday when my kids are grown I will go back to college.

If I had not had my kids I would always have wondered about missing THAT opportunity. It is a tough decision and only you know what answer will be best for you.

Be strong and don't be afraid to look to your family for support. (Emotional, financial, whatever) Good luck!

Answer 3

are you open to adoption? If so, consider open adoption. Where you are able to maintain contact with the baby and new family. it can be very rewarding. There are also other options that generally make people feel uncomfortable but ultimately either decision is yours.

Can you succeed in college with 2 small children? Do you have a support system to help you with childcare? The college you are attending should be able to assist you with housing if they have family housing available. If not look for a school that does, if it is possible. Seriously consider getting federal assistance. That is what it is there for, temporary assistance. And by getting an education you are ensuring that is what it will be....temporary

good luck...

Answer 4

Alot of colleges have day care centers that have reasonable fees for those who cant afford too much. Mine does and I am in a pretty reputable school. Keep your baby, even if it means putting off school for a few more years. Sometimes we have to sacrifice a little in the beginning to get where we want to be in life.College will always be there. WIth strong will and determination you will be able to get through everything. If you ever wanna talk more about it you can email me [e-mail] luck

Answer 5

I'd have to vote for college over kids; you already have your hands full, and I don't know whether your belief system is okay with adoption (sounds rosy, but too hopeful) or abortion (controversial, but does the job), but compounded with that abusive boyfriend past, your straightest shot to independence is getting that degree and not being any more dependent than you have to be. You should have a better financial aid package than most as a single mom, but if you can't afford or borrow your way through school, then I don't know what else to suggest

Answer 6

I think if you can handle another kid then keep it. Maybe you can pick up a part time job. there is also welfare and stuff like that to help young moms to get on their feet. If you do not feel that you can handle the pressure of another kid then maybe you should look into adoption. There is many options with adoptions. So it may be a choice to look into. Good luck!!

Answer 7

It will be hard for you, but if you want to keep your baby, contact the financial aid office and see how you would go about get extra funding. If you feel your baby would be better off with an adoptive family, as an Adoptive Mom, I say go for it. There are a lot of loving stable families like mine, who couldn't have children and adopted babies from girls who were unable to keep them or felt they wouldn't be able to adequately provide for them. Remember, you have to take care of yourself as well... follow your heart.

Answer 8

I do not know you but I know that I believe that there is a GOD in Heaven. If you also believe there is also then you will not terminate this pregnancy. That would be murder in the eyes of GOD. I would never allow a man to strike any of my children especially not my daughters. He is not a man or a "guy" he is a "weenee". I would continue my education as soon as is possible. There are some colleges that will assist with childcare and rooming for children. You might get online and see what is available. I hope that all goes well for you.
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Answer 9

Go to college. If it's too hard to go to college and raise 2 kids at the same time, then ask someone else in your family to take care of your kids while you are in college.

Answer 10

Adoption. I would give that baby the best chance to be raised in a two parent home.
Good luck!

Answer 11

I think you ought to keep the baby because it has the right to live. I think though that you might have to pass up college. It's a tough choice but remember, it's not the baby's fault.