I've seen this a few times, but what do you think? Seems kinda weird to me.
2006-11-28 11:22:57 · 9 answers · asked by me 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I take it as a sign of dependancy at best. If he's not going to hang out with his other friends at all anymore, that just means that he has every intention of spending that time wtih me. And it's flattering, and it's cool. But what about my friends? What are they going to think? If he's with me all the time, are they going to want to hang out anymore? Are they going to invite me to go out with them knowing that he's sitting next to me when they call? No. They're not.
A guy should not change his lifestyle to accomodate his girl. Slight alterations are understandable. But completely cutting loose his old pals? It's a little scary. That means that the only person he's planning on hanging out with now is me. I don't like it. A. I want to be able to hang out with my other friends, and yes sometimes, without him. B. Sometimes I'm actually going to want time alone!
Me personally, I feel stifled when a guy like that is around. What if I want to give myself a pedicure while blasting Cyndi Lauper remakes? Is he going to be down with that? Not likely, but he's going to be there... so I'm not going to be able to do my own thing. There's so many implications.
Obviously, each scenario is different. So long as he doesn't plan on spending all of his extra time with me then I don't see a huge problem with it. But still, you have to ask, why would he want to do that in the first place? Why suddenly has he lost all interest in hanging out with his good friends? That's pretty strange if you ask me.
2006-11-28 11:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by blackstarling 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with sacrificing your time with friends, to spend time with your women.
But if you dump all your friends, then you are either going to be a possessive guy, or a clingy guy. This is dangerous I think. It can cause alot of problems for the women.
The guy will want her all to his self, and will want her to dump her friends to.
The women will feel lonely with out friends to talk to, and do things with. Women need friends to talk to, because sometimes guys don't get us. The Guy could even get abusive with the girl, because he doesn't realize he needs space from her at times. And needs to be with his guy friends. We love our mates, but it is hard to be with them 24/7. We need to miss each other, it sparks up the relationship. So I think it is okay if the Guy spends time with friends, if he does it in a balanced way, not neglecting the women, and Visa Versa.
2006-11-28 16:38:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it could be a mans way of showing commitment to his lady. By giving up drinking beer with the guys, playing video games, and chasing girls. On the other hand some women are very demanding of their boyfriends and want all of their time, and feel like their male friends are bad influences. I think its ok to cut back on some activities with friends when you are in a committed relationship but cutting off all ties is a bit extreme.
2006-11-28 12:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nixxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a question.
Would his guy friends want him back when his obsessive relationship with his girlfriend ends?
Do guys think that way? Or don't they care.
If someone dumped my friendship for a new 'love interest', I'd feel like I wasn't seen as good enough a friend to want to spend time with.
A healthy friendship/relationship of any kind has a good balance of time spent with those who matter to us.
2006-11-28 11:43:13 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men do this because they fear one of their friends will be more desirable to the woman they want for themselves. Some men don't trust their friends to not hit on her. Some leave everything behind and become obsessive about the woman and then will do anything to hold on to her even against her wishes. Sometimes it's just because she's the one. Both men and women sometimes do this.
2006-11-28 11:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would seem too clingy. I want the guy to have his friends so he has his own life and stuff to keep him busy when I'm busy doing my own thing. I like having some time to myself and some time away from my partner. It's more fun then when you do get together, you have stories to tell.
2006-11-28 11:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
KINDA WEIRD? Oh my goodness! What is with that? I hate that. I think it is extremely weird! What. do they want to spend all their time checking up on you? That is soooooo weird, not to mention annoying!!!!
2006-11-29 12:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate it when a guy does that....they should have their guy friends, because then it just seems like he wants to just have you in his company which is kinda wiered. he should be able to enjoy the company of his guy friends too.
2006-11-28 11:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sucks!! Sometimes the woman needs alone time and if he has no friends, she's out of luck. :(
2006-11-28 12:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by imjustpeachytoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋