sexual life for health reaons of your partner? Would you be so giving to build a relationship powerful enough, strong enough, AGAPE, because you really believe that true love goes beyond any sexual issue? We already had this before, but now it seems more difficult because of age and problems with his health. But I love him so very much that to me, his problems do not mean anyhint. They affect him more than me. Please, share your thought on this.
2006-11-28 11:20:06 · 13 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must say that I want to stay with him, in all times, good and bad times. But he fears I will not be able to handle a life without sex. But to me, the love I feel for him goes beyind any barrier, it is priceless, I just don't know how to convince him of the strength of my love for him. We are not kids anymore, and we do love each other dearly.
2006-11-28 11:30:06 · update #1
Well for me that's an easy question. I am married. I love my husband and we take our wedding vows very seriously. I vowed to be faithful, and love and cherish him forever. I would continue to love him and stand by his side if he was unable to continue to perform sexually for any reason. The way I see it, eventually we are going to grow old and feeble together, and sex will gradually fade out anyway. In your scenario, that would just happen a lot sooner due to illness or injury.
In your case, it seems your man is more upset than you are with his inability to please you sexually. You need to reassure him that he pleases you in so many more ways that it seems sex doesn't even matter. Men often only perceive themselves to be only as good as they perform in bed, and it sounds like he needs some good old fashioned cuddling and reassurance.
2006-11-28 11:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kimberly H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely would stay with someone I love even if they were in poor health. My grandfather always used to say that if you don't have your health, you have nothing. And have you ever seen the movie "Click" with Adam Sandler. It's focus is on how important family is.
If this is a boyfriend, you should seriously consider your goals and his needs and make a decision and stick with it. If this is your husband, then you should ABSOLUTELY stick by him. If you are having sexual frusterations, could you see a therapist, resort to masturbation with his okay, or even find a way to have a sexually non-monogamous relationship? It just sounds like you are a crappy person if you are willing to leave someone you love who is in bad health just because you want to get a little. That would be selfish, so, since you don't want to be that way, search in your heart and do the right thing. ---be true to yourself!
2006-11-28 11:25:57 · answer #2 · answered by dasielady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE conquers all. Period.
If the problems affect him more than you then all you can do is be there for him.
I would love the man I am with NO MATTER WHAT. If every limb he had got cut off.. we could never have sex again.. and he was mentally brain dead.. I would still take care of him.. because without him I would have a hard time loving anything.
Choose your battles.. things could be a lot worse.
2006-11-28 11:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 21:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of reasons to stay in a healthy relationship even if the sex isn't a dominating factor. Finding a person to love and respect you is hard enough. If you don't feel you are selling yourself short, don't even think twice about it. Enjoy your relationship and your man, love him for who he is not what he can't do.
2006-11-28 11:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more ways to be intimate than sex. I think if you love someone enough than you find a way to overcome that type of obstacle. If you can't then your love wasn't enough. I admire you and really respect you and I feel that your love will overcome this and your husbands concern.
2006-11-28 11:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your partner it goes beyond sex.
Just being near your partner is wonderful when you love them that much. Is there anything wrong with his lips?? his hands? cant he touch you still? Of course. Touch is needed, kindness is needed, compassion is needed but what you are talking about can be remedied many other ways. Good luck to you dear. :) Peace.
2006-11-28 11:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly feel that sex is not that importnat to you then you should convince him that you want his companionship. Discuss with him other options for intimacy that he would be comfortable with. You just need to build his confidence and show him that you love him for who he is to you period. Not for who he is in bed.
2006-11-28 11:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Making Them Listen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you already know your answer- If you love him as much as it sounds then you and him will be just fine. Love goes beyond sex-
2006-11-28 12:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by shannyutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have a hard time being with someone without a physical relationship...Does not mean only sex, but the entire deal...but everyone is different...
2006-11-28 11:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋