In love but shouldnt' be?

Question

I have been having a secret relationship with a man who is in a relationship with 3 kids and I believe I am in love with him.

I have never felt this way about anyone before and also agrees that we are soulmates but that the big man upstairs stuffed up because he made him my uncle. He's not a full blood uncle, him and my mum have the same dad but different father.

Is this really wrong? We have talked about what would happen if anyone found out about us and I would be willing to give everything up for him and he agrees and said if he knew that this was what love felt like then he would never have got with the woman he is with now. But he is terrified of losing his kids.

What do I do? I'm in love with him. I can't imagine my life without him. Is there a law against it seeing as we aren't full blood? If I got pregnant would the baby be deformed?

Sorry it should be the same father but different mother

Answer 1

You need to put a stop on this relationship. It will ruin you whole family’s relationship. Not just his marriage but also he and his wife with your parents and any other aunts and uncles you may have. You must visualize your life without him, it is against the law to marry him and if the community you live in finds out about it they will make your life hell and someone may even shoot him thinking he forced you into it. If he is more your mom’s age than yours then he for one should have known better before it got out of hand even if you were to young to have much sense. Did you ever stop to think that if he cheats on his wife with you then later when you grow old he would cheat on you too? Older men can always get a young girl if they want to. If you are old enough to move far away then it will force you and him to stop seeing each other. If you do have a child by him the odds of having a deformed or mentally challenged child is much greater than if he was not related. It depends on your family’s weaknesses and strengths in other words their genetic makeup of what the deformities would be. Find a new love and the old one will disappear with time. Get out before you are found out↔