Why do women keep asking men if they look fat?

Question

So what if they are? I have seen plenty of women who, although they are attractive outwardly, are as ugly (or more) on the inside as they accuse others of being on the outside.

Answer 1

Not all women ask men if they are fat. That's like saying all guys are always asking if their equipment is big.

By the way, do I look fat?

Answer 2

I'm curious. Men, do you ever want us to say that you aren't fat? Or whatever? We all have egos, some bigger than others. We also all have hearts, some more fragile than others. Yes, we are wired differently. I'm happy to admit that I've been more than a little puzzled by some mens' responses in my life. I've also seen the same look on their faces as they look back at me.

One of the keys is to be there for each other, listen the best that you can. It's not the act that counts, but the intention. I love you, I'm here for you, even if I don't know why you are asking me this same question again. Even friends can do that. I

would guess that men might not want to admit that they need reassurance sometimes, but I think they do. Life is too short to fuss so, over why someone does something or not. I've wasted a lot of time doing this, and in the long run, it doesn't help anyone and irritates me. I hope to follow my own advice in the future and seek to be good to those around me, to compliment them, etc.

Recently I saw my brother developing his first gray hairs. I thought he looked so good, so I told him so. He really did. It was a true statement on my part. He didn't react at all, but maybe, he was pleased, maybe not. I just think he looks so more handsome now.

Ok. So I'm dating myself a bit here. I thrive on compliments, reassurance and encouragement. IWanting positive loving attention is a basic human need. And yes, I also struggle with self-esteem issues. Just because I ask for a compliment, doesn't necessarily mean that I have emotional problems. Sometimes it just means that I'm asking for what I want. I The bottom line is that I know what is good for me and I can ask for it.

I'd much rather spend time with someone who knows what they want and can ask for it, then to spend time with someone who beats around the bush, and doesn't come right out and say what they want or mean.

There are days and times when I really do need some reassurance and when it's absolutely fine to ask for it. Men, why do you think we women talk so much? Sometimes it's just about listening to each other. We hear each other out and we feel better. We talk to each other and the world begins makes more sense again. It's a mystery. Stop fussing over it, and enjoy each other, as I said before, life is too short not to.

Answer 3

all women want to be attractive they ask there boyfriends or spouse that question because they want to know what you think if you think they are beutiful they well to it is all a result of low self-esteem personally i think it stems from girls not being told they were pretty when they were younger so they have no self-esteem they never thought they were pretty. if you are in a situation and your girlfriend asks you if she is fat. Tell her the truth. Maybe she is over weight but you could tell her she is pretty no matter what and you except her no matter how she looks if that is how you feel just dont lie i would rather you tell me the truth. also if you do tell her you like her just the way she is and she still thinks she is fat. tell her you want her to love herself just as she is and maybe she will start feeling better. remember big isnt always bad until it is out of control

Answer 4

Because they really want a complement and they are hoping you will say that they do not look fat. Most women who ask this question of men are really insecure and need the approval from others.

Answer 5

It generally starts when a guy is not giving the gal enough attention... Would it hurt for a guy to compliment the one he cares about ? Obviously YES or they would take care of it before the asking begins.

Women are different creatures, we simply want some attention and want to feel that we are attractive to they man in our life.

Men just want beer and soon they are alone with all the beer they want and wondering what the hell happened !

Answer 6

Since our culture still talks about it, women keep repeating it. If they really need to know, they should go ask a girlfriend, or figure out how to evaluate themselves honestly.
Whatever other reasons they have, trust me, they'll come up with new ways to express insecurities and antagonize men forever!

Answer 7

Some just ask it to show off their body, others do it because they know they are and hope that the men would be kind enough to say no, some consider it a challenge to improve their self-esteem.

Answer 8

women are constantly looking for a compliment....that is why you always answer "no" to if they look fat, and "yes" to if that dress makes them look skinny....i can say that as a woman, that we tend to have low self esteem. we just want the guy in our life to be there for us and to lift us up a little when we are feeling a little bad about ourselves....we might know that guys are just saying that to avoid a fight...but it still makes us feel good. dont read to much into it and just tell them that they dont look fat :D

Answer 9

it womens need to be excepted even if we are fat thats what the hollywood always tells us if were not skinny were not pretty and no one loves us... even though thats not true. we just want to know that ourman/guy friend or who ever thinks we look beautiful its like an ego thing/ self esteem

Answer 10

I think it's just that the ladies like to hear 'it' sometimes even if it's a lie, lol=P They just like hearing you say that they look great regardless.
Also I'm guessing it's 'cause of a sense of validation, maybe?
To feel that they're somewhat still considered attractive to their male partners.