I just really wanted to know what it feels like firsthand so I know what to expect. A lot of the girls at school tell me different things, but I just don't know who to trust. I'm not trying to be a slut or anything I just wanted to know about a few precautions, sensations people may feel or tips to make it more enjoyable for first timers.
2006-11-28 11:11:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I won't lecture, because I was horny in high school once too *sigh* :)
There are so many WONDERFUL things to try before actually engaging in sex. Get comfortable with whoever you are going to sleep with first, and explore each others' bodies. Manual and oral stimulation can be wonderful, but if you're nervous, you may not enjoy it.
Start with kissing and getting comfortable with that. If you're ready to take it to the next step, let it go slowly. I wouldn't recommend sex if you have never been fingered or fingered yourself before. The penetration may be a little overwhelming if it is a completely new sensation to you.
Oral sex can be wonderful if you are comfortable enough with your body to enjoy it. I know many women who still won't let their boyfriends go down on them, simply because they are squeemish/think the vagina is ugly/think the vagina is dirty/smelly. The vagina is a lovely thing! And you should definitely be comfortable with your own body and every part of it before you share it with someone.
I would definitely say, do not let him inside of you unless you really, really want it. When your body gets excited and anxious, the blood will flow towards your vagina, causing that tingly/wet sensation. This will make it MUCH easier and MUCH more pleasurable. Imagine it opening up and blossoming and ready to go!
When you finally do the deed, (whenever you are ready! there is no "normal" age for it), I would ALWAYS recommend using protection. Having him pull out before ejaculation is not 100% accurate, like your friends will tell you in high school. Not only that, but you can run into all sorts of problems from STD's, or even a vaginal infection.
Just be careful, and go at a pace that feels right. It's no one's business but your own, so don't let anyone convince you it's time. When it's time, you'll know.
Good luck, and stay safe!
2006-11-28 11:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra G 3 · 21⤊ 0⤋
This may sound strange if you aren't familiar with the concept, and it may not be the case with you at all, but have you considered that you may be asexual? This means that you simply are not interested in having sex. Not that you necessarily dislike the idea of sex, or that you absolutely can't get aroused, but that you are more into other aspects of a relationship and not really attracted to sex. If you are having trouble enjoying yourself during sex, it could be because you're oriented away from enjoying it. There's nothing wrong with this, and it doesn't mean you are sex-repulsed. However, it could also just be that you haven't given enough attention to adjusting to the act. There isn't a specific period of time you must wait to adjust, you just have to find out what you both like and don't like. Communication is very important.
2016-03-13 00:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it didn't hurt. When he first went it, it was a little tight with a little pressure, but it didn't really hurt. After about a minute, it was much better and for the rest of the time, it was great. That was just my experience though. The best advice is to make sure that you're very well lubricated and that you relax. I know that that's easier said than done, but if you don't relax, you'll be more tense and tighter and that will make the experience less than desirable. Also, make sure it's with someone you love and that you're not just doing it so you can say you've done it. Someone you love and who loves you will go easy and gently and therefore...less pain.
2006-11-28 11:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 13⤊ 1⤋
It feels like you might have done the wrong thing and you MIGHT feel like a ****. Even with the right guy. You don't want to lose your virginity to a total loser and you don't want to have sex with a player because they will just end up hurting you. If you plan on doing it you want to make sure it is the right guy. If you want to lose your virginity then pick the RIGHT guy and spend a long time with him before you make up your mind. See if he is right for YOU.
2006-11-28 11:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
It's different for everyone but the thing that makes the biggest difference is your relationship with other person. If they truly care and love you and vice versa then it can very very enjoyable. Lots of people rush into sex with someone that they don't genuinely feel strongly enough about and then it can be very disappointing and regret can set in quickly. At the very least you need to be in a secure loving realtionship and with someone you trust implicitly and they feel the same about you.
2006-11-28 11:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by minotaur 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
if you have a nice boy which you can see yourself with or that you know will never treat you wrong some of the best things you can do now is oral ORAL oral ORAL... it's amazing...giving and recieving it is awesome...don't know what it's like for a guy but after i got oral my legs were weak and i couldn't see straingt...actually that's the way i am whenever i have a sexual experience. my first time was in my room and it was one of those things where my bf had been fingering me and he scraped and i told him to stop. he wanted to know(as well as i did) if it would hurt when we had sex...so we decieded to do one of those one in one out he said that he only halfway in...it really didn't hurt...maybe a slight pulling and like there was a hude void in my lower region but other than that it was amazing...and we didn't do anything...just me sitting on his pewee and getting off....hope that hepled.
2006-11-28 11:44:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋
IT HURTS !!! I bled (lightly)for like 3 days. He was BIG that's probably why. I also got a BAD UTI(urinary tract infection)which, the Gyno said was "common" for first-timers.
And YES, this all happened on my wedding night and Honeymoon so, do "IT" before.
2006-11-28 11:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by #1 "Abuela" 4 · 7⤊ 10⤋
let me tell u it fells like horro ok because u never lost it and it will be yo 1st time
2006-11-28 11:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 25⤋
Wait until you're married only, and then you can find out.
2006-11-28 11:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 20⤊ 33⤋