Why I cannot trust anybody other than my self?

Question

I feel sometimes, the more I was rejected by Human nature, I loose my trust among people. May be I may have born in a different ways. The more help, show caring, too good to the people, less respect I receive.Why? Am I a foolish? or too sensitive to hurt people? Sometimes I feel like, I,m too open, out-spoken. How can I win anybody's trust, no perticular special personin my life.I treat people equally.

Answer 1

The only person in this life you can truly trust is yourself. Consistancy. honesty and faith in yourself shine through. Unfortunately these are things young people do not recognize until they have been slapped around by life. Just be you and vigilant for those that want to take that from you.

Answer 2

While humans like to believe we are different/above animals, in fact we are quite the same. It's all about survival.
Humanity is supposed to be different because we are "humane" unfortunately not every walking talking human has risen to that point.

People respect strength. The ideals of strength change from time to time or culture to culture.

There was a time when compassion and integrity were considered strengths, some of us still believe it. The current culture, however sees apathy as strength. If I don't care than nothing can hurt me.

You are not alone just rare. It is painful to be kind and sensitive, but being true to yourself is the only way you can live with integrity. I'd rather be me and alone, than accept other standards and be surrounded by fools.

Loneliness sucks, but the other option is not possible, at least I know it's not for me, and probably not for you either.

Did you ever hear the saying - don't mistake kindness for weakness? It is said because it is often done.

Hang in there. :)

Answer 3

You are right in trusting yourself most.

Trust others when they deserve it.

Mostly people are selfish and don't help others just for the good feeling in it.

Mostly people get beaten up in one way or another and then they feel like there is some advantage in doing that to other people.

You probably have gained a sort of patina that you don't even know you have. If or when you are broke or on the street or friendless. Thats when the no particular people help you back. You would get help just from how and who you are , even with no money. People would treat you equally too.

Answer 4

you may wonder why you cant trust people
i cant trust anyone myself.
it's hard to trust people with everything thats going on in the world today
and theres nothing wrong with that!
there only a few true people that will stay in our life
our parents, family, and true friends
and until you dont feel comfortable wiht someone, then its still ok
you dont need others inthe world to survive
its you against the world.
unless you want to share your trust with otehers and have it broken
and i think you DID trust people in the past
but all the backstabbging, heart break and untrustworthyness has scared you away
and your not selfish or foolish, your smart.

i dont know you or anything but all i can say is, your saving yourself from getting hurt
if your not sure about trusting someone you shouldnt.
its better to be like you rather than like some poeple who tell EVERYONE EVERYTHING and tahts how rumors start about people, by their own faults

hope this helps :)

Answer 5

I'm not sure if you mean trust or belief in and respect for people. But I think the answer is to think of people as individuals and to learn from experience who you can and cannot trust and to what extent. People can certainly be disheartening and discouraging. Try not to overgeneralize the negative experiences you have. They don't reflect on all people.

One of the hard learned lessons for me about trust was that, regardless of someone's intentions, you mustn't trust incompetent people. They can love and respect you, but still be unworthy of trust because they are incompetent. So, unfortunately, life is not so simple as to allow us to treat all people equally without paying a high price for it.

I think the concept of worth is useless, but if you insist on it, I'll say all people have the same intrinsic worth or value. But all people are not the same and to treat them all the same is folly.

Answer 6

spent my whole life feeling the same way...trust is earned but distrust can be used to keep a wall up against society... I am typically shy and had a abusive childhood went to counciling and self help groups for a long time and slowly that wall is starting to come down. just keep on working at it. Trust will come in time.

Answer 7

I'm the same way, when people hurt me, I just stand there and say nothing back, I don't get mad at people easily but I don't have many friends because I can't trust anyone but lately I've been saying to myself that I can do it and one day, I'll suceed, I just got to take everything step by step.

Answer 8

Yes, there is such a thing as "too nice". Been too nice, dissed the one who was too nice.
Anyway, we only want what we don't have.
Be a little mysterious.
Give a little, and then keep people wanting more. Working for it.
It's just human nature, so don't be afraid to go get yours.
It took me years to learn. People miss me when I hold back. It works.

Answer 9

well it's natural, sometimes some people can't trust anyone... like me. just realize that some people can be trusted, and try to take the rejection, everybody gets rejected sometimes.
oh and you're not foolish.

Answer 10

Keep it like that. Trust is a burden. Besides, you won't disappoint yourself. If you trust others, you will be disappointed repeatedly. You however, can win trust simply by keeping your word, no matter how big or small.