She made a statement to the police and everything and the reality of it is I just gave her some verbal after I found out things about her and what she done while we were together.Any tips on getting off with it?
ps I just said what my lawyer told me to say ( basically an apology etc) and I have been bailed in the meantime.
NO SILLY ANSWERS PLEASE THIS IS SERIOUS!
2006-11-28 11:09:18 · 13 answers · asked by HIMSELF 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Just verbal? Find that hard to believe unless she said the words where threatening like " i'm going to kill you"
Now it has gone as far as the police and lawyers are involved, I would take their advice, apologise and hope the police accept that...a judge might not! Good luck
2006-11-28 11:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by puffy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depending on which state you live in. Harassment becomes her reality. if she feels that you are harassing her, it is likely the court will issue a no-contact order against you.
Funny how that works. I betcha you feel like you are on the short end of the stick. The best thing you can do is, keep your distance from her, and keep your mouth closed.
Let her be verbal with you. Let her make threats to you. Let her be the one to disturb the peace. And then you call the police on her and you file a harassment complaint. Then you have her appear in court to defend herself. Then the Judge is likely to issue both of you a no-contact order.
Remember: Keep your mouth closed. Keep your distance. And just wait for her to strike. And then you go in for the kill by calling the police on her and let them know she has violated the no-contact order.
Then you watch her get carried away in the "patty-wagon".
But if you strike first, kiss your butt good-bye.
So what are you going to do?
2006-11-28 19:19:39 · answer #2 · answered by Tired of being Mr. Nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorrie to hear this happening to you. It sounds like shes reported you on a ground of threat, you said I just gave her some verbal, it sounded like you threaten her and she felt threaten by you. You said soorie to her but she won't meet you half way, well the ball in her court now, Im sure the judge be pleased you said sorry and she's not accepting it, so she's the stubboen one. Let you lawyer deal with this and you keep away from her, just keep yourself right. If she ever come near you, you report her to the police on a ground of harassment. Don't worry to much and don't read into too much. You may get a slap on the wrist and let off. Just keep away from her. Good Luck!!
2006-11-28 19:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For a charge of harrassment to be brought you must have contacted her more than once in some way or followed her on more than one occasion. Perhaps you phoned her or sent text messages a couple of times?
If you only spoke to her once then it is not harrassment, therefore there is no charge to answer.
Either she lied to the police or the whole story has not been told here.
I suggest you keep away from her. If you take the same route to work, change your route slightly.
2006-11-29 06:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by LYN W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was given my first case of harrasement by the police about 4 years ago, they warned me that if I contacted any of this persons friends or any associates I would then be arrested and charged for harrasement. But the person told lies about me to the police, cut they still had me and warned me.
My advice to you is to stay well clear of her and her associates and then that way you cannot be blamed or arrested by the police. It is a stupid law that has taken over from stalking, but it is your word against the other persons who is making the allegations.
2006-11-28 19:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by CT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay AWAY from her. Don't call her, don't answer her calls or from any other private number or number you do not recognise. Avoid her friends, and family and just keep your nose clean. Take your lawyer's advice and try not to worry too much. Put it down to experience. Do not argue or get violent or drunk or do drugs just stay out of all trouble. She's just trying to get back at you. Guilt is a funny thing.
2006-11-28 19:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by hornyheluk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you have no previous record of this, i would say that you were deeply in love when you broke up, very hurt by the things she did behind your back and you just reacted to the situation.
Say that you realise that what you said and how you said it was not the way to deal with things, but that you were very hurt by here and simply reacted to what happened. If you make sure they realise you wont do it again and have no interest in contacting her again, being as its your first offence (I hope) they should hopefully be lenient with you.
You just need to make sure that you say you were reacting against what she did wrong, you realise it was a stupid thing to do and you have no further interest in her.
2006-11-28 19:21:54 · answer #7 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex has betrayed me?
I found out that my ex was actually sleeping with her current boyfriend for about a year before we split up. Does anyone have any ideas for getting my revenge?
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M aybe revenge is not the right phrase for me to use. I just want to do something that will make her look a tw at!
2006-11-28 19:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation, how did it get that far as i have reported my ex for harassment and the police said that unless he touches me or the kids they cant do any thing.Its your word against hers. Good luck.
2006-11-28 19:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by tracey a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it must have been a bit more then you're letting on if you actually are on bail! No one gets that for having a go at someone. Be honest. .
2006-11-28 19:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Katie G 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋