Married People: Have you ever been tempted to cheat but didn't, with someone incredibly tempting?

Question

This is for those who are happily married and would NEVER cheat. You have NO DESIRE to cheat at all and you won't, but there is an infatuation you unexpectedly get from this person that you don't even want to feel. They're attractive both inside and out, and in many ways, they're another version of your spouse. And like the good person you are, you do nothing to lead the person on, and make sure your nothing but friends at the most.

Thought this was an interesting question to ask. Thoughts??

By the way, I think we sometimes meet people like this throughout our lives, but because your already taken by the one for you, you 're not going to ever cheat. I think you have an incredibly strong and real bond with the one you love if you can confidentally be yourself around these kinds of people and never cross lines. I think a real love no matter what the conditions, means you will never cheat.

This question is just to read some of your experiences on this.

Answer 1

I've had this exact issue and yes I was tempted but chose not to for many, many, many reasons. The biggest one being the thought of the pain and tears I would cause on my husbands and childrens faces and how important integrity is to myself.

Answer 2

Very good question....I've had that situation, I haven't cheated but certainly thought about it. Right now I'm facing it. I love my husband. This other guy is everything my husband used to be. My husband rarely wants any kind of intimacy, I'm not just talking sex, I'm talking hug, kiss, cuddle on the couch while watching a movie, nothing! I believe love will over come most anything. But at some point a person will start looking elsewhere. I know that is what I am doing. I have spoken with the husband and he doles out the tolken romp in the hay. I tell him I need some simple TLC, I try to lead by example but he doesn't like to follow. I've given him the benefit of the doubt, we've had a lot of losses in the past few years and I know he suffers untreated depression but one can only take so much. I still think about acting on the feelings and probably will some day if things don't change.

Answer 3

Well, my boss is married and has a 7-month old baby. I am about to be divorced and I have a strong attraction to my boss. It's just chemistry. Or maybe it's all my imagination. Maybe he doesn't have any attraction to me...maybe it's what I subconsciously wish...that he's attracted to me. Which is terrible because he's married. But I have had the feeling since I started working for him that he may not be happy in his marriage. Maybe he's just going through a tough time being a new dad...I don't know. I have caught him looking at me and checking me out (because I was looking at him) and I wonder what in the world he's thinking ? There's tension between us at times. Maybe he senses my attraction and it makes him uncomfortable ? Or maybe he wishes I wouldn't be attracted to him. The last thing I want to be is a "home wrecker" and I won't be. This is a hard situation to be in. Part of me wonders if I'm here on purpose ? Maybe there's a future for us ? Or maybe I need to learn that I can't always have what I want ? I like my job and the pay is decent so I don't want to leave, but sometimes I feel like it...just so I won't torture myself anymore with this attraction to my own married boss !! How ridiculous. One thing I like about him so much is that his ears glow bright red sometimes when we speak. Why is that ? What if I never find someone else whose ears are on fire by my presence ? I have felt like this about people before but I don't know that I've ever made anyone feel that way...

Answer 4

Yes I was tempted, and that is not even a word to describe the bond, the chemistry, the "fit". But I have never cheatted on my husband, no matter how bad marriage was, because I gave my word on my ceremony and cheating would be going against my principles, my morale, my ethic, myself. But that is just me, and small percentage of modern population might agree. Commitment is bigger than we realize when we committ. But staying committed is our reflection of who we are. ARe you a strong character? If not, work on it. For your sake and all around you.

Answer 5

I love my wife and will never ever cheat. I am in a career where I meet a lot of smart wealthy women. My dear wife is somewhat simple and not real smart in the ways of career women. A while back I had a meeting with a buisness client that turned out to be a bombshell busty blonde. She looked liked a movie star, but she was so intelligent and sexy. We hit it off at first contact. She was everything I ever dreamed of in a girl. And she was sooo sweet. She also let me know that she was single. But I love my dear simple wife forever so nothing will ever lead me to stray.

Answer 6

good question,
I have never cheated but came really close with a co-worker. We were out of town for travel and went out to eat and had a few drinks. We were both buzzed and started talking, you know we got closer and closer. Then as we were walking back to our hotel she grabbed me and we started to make out. it was great we then went up to her room as she told me she wants me and i wanted it too. Then my conscious came on, i put the end to the little fling quickly. She was cool with it and respected me "she is married too" We just ended up taking and we are still good friends. I love my wife so much thats why it did not go on further, we have been married for 6 years.

Answer 7

NO.

I was cheated on my first marriage and know the hurt and feeligs that go with it. I could never do that to someone.

When you have those thoughts you need to either get them out of your mind forever or divorce before you act on them. Why be married.

You are right, real love you do not cheat!!!

Answer 8

Yes....my hubby's "best friend" has always been after me...i find him attractive, but NO CHEATING...this "friend" finally came really close to me after 8 years and tried to kiss me....i laughed and turned my face away from him....very tempting....decided not to see him again because we could really end up kissing or else...

Answer 9

U got it all correct so what could be the problem... Marriage should be forever but if it doesn't work for some reason then you are free to roam and find someone else but till then don't be selfish and stupid.

Answer 10

This is a good question. Tempted yes. Done anything no.