i have been married for 9 ys this coming Jan. I love my husband but it seem that we are falling apart he never wants to spend time with me and has even gotten to the point that he acts like it kills him to even come home sometimes to me and on top of that hes wanting to bring anotherwoman into our marriage what should i do stay like i have been or count my losses and go on with my life because i cant handle being second in his life??
2006-11-28 11:02:53 · 20 answers · asked by Mimi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My god girl... do what is best for you and it is obvious it's not staying with him... you have invested 9 years of your life... move on... there is someone out there that will love you and be faithful and care about you in the way you deserve... making the break is hard but it will be well worth it when things calm down and you have a chance to breath and learn how to look at life through the eyes of some that has a second chance to be happy... i spent to may years with someone that I knew wasn't what I wanted nor would never change... take a good look at him... deep down is he really what you want in a man... hope this helps and...
GOOOd LUckkk!!!!
2006-11-28 11:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never feel second best to a job, the drink, drugs and especially another women
have you told him how you feel and what you are concerned about if you haven't try to talk to him and TELL him you don't deserve to feel or be treated this way and if you make no progress doing this then what you and him had will never return
i am sorry to hear of this situation but remember sometimes it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all
i hope all goes well for though and you can both sort these issues out and live close once again
2006-11-28 11:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow,,, That is a tough question. I do not know all the circumstances and I would hate to give advice without them. But if you have to come to a decision about staying or leaving, I would recommend marriage counseling. This will help determine whether the relationship is salvageable, then if not it will help with divorce court. I am sorry I could not help more. God Bless
2006-11-28 11:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
another woman into your house.....that's disgusting......I don't know the whole thing but I would not leave before having a talk with him or with a counselor. Now, if you feel in your heart that it is over, move on. But what if you still love him??? Are you going to quit that easily? Without fighting for him? It is hard to give a piece of advice when we don't know all the circunstances. Pray, my dear, and ask God to guide you. He will, he did for me, I am sure He will do the same for you.
Good luck and God bless.
2006-11-28 11:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really sad. I was married for 8 years. My husband acted the same way. Only difference is he never brought another woman into it. I wish i would have stayed for our kids sake. But i filed for a divorce. But if there had been another woman involved than i would not only filed for the divorce but would have took him for everything he is worth. And made him wish he had never met me.
2006-11-28 11:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U R right. Do not settle for less than you are worth. I always believe that if a man loves you, he will always put U first before everything and everyone else.
2006-11-28 11:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by SPR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't love you anymore and you should let him go..... Women know when it is over so listen to yourself . I knew my marriage was over years before i let go and i hung on for the kids..........bad mistake........if i knew that back then i would have planned it better and saved up a whole bunch of money ... dont make the same mistake i made....good luck to ya......
2006-11-28 11:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The minute he mentioned another woman, you should of thrown him out. If he cannot accept you as first in his life, he's not worth keeping around.
2006-11-28 11:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has basically told you , he doesn't have room in his life for you. This is not seven year inch, he seems that he does not have any respect for you. Cut your losses
2006-11-28 11:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a wife has to b 1st in a husbands life
2006-11-28 11:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋