I'm going to buy my ex a gift. The kids are more difficult. They've taken advantage of their Mom and I to the max. I let one know that X-mas and B-day cash will be halved and the other half will pay back (clear and acknowledged) loans. The other, who was most responsible as a kid and supportive during the divorce doesn't "owe" me a dime (the $ to her were always a couple $100 or less and not described as loans) but won't contact me, let me know her phone or address (Mom obviously won't help and I think she's trying to contaminate our relationship) or let me (since I don't know how to contact them) see my grandkids (her kids). With no contact for 1.5+ years, I can't see giving her lots of money. What do people think about this whole sad, sorry situation? Talking with my ex is not an option - she hates me and would like her kids to have nothing to do with me.
2006-11-28 11:01:02 · 8 answers · asked by catniplles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK I'd send them a card........
I understand your situation my mum divorced a guy I really liked he loved my boys and was great to them I never took advantage of them and basically when it ends like all divorces you stay with who was loyal to you....and blood is thicker.
I am sorry for you....
I am sorry for my ex step dad.... but I would not hurt my mum.
That's how they feel.
So send them a card tell them you care even though all this has happened and give them your phone number....Other than that know you made a difference being a part in their lives in some little or big way and try to move forward and make a life for yourself... Hugs
2006-11-28 11:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you buying your x a Christmas gift? I don't see any sense in doing so. Are you trying to "buy" her approval so she will let you see the kids? Look, contact your attorney, you have rights as a father to see your children. If they decide they don't want to see you, let it go. It is a hard pill to swallow, but if they are of age, over 16 - 18, then really, you need to let the dust settle, and maybe, just maybe they will come around. You can't buy love, respect through presents, or they will continue to leech off of you until the day you die. You need to stand up for yourself, say I am not going to take this abuse any longer, give what you feel is comfortable and you can live with for the children, and move on. Your attorney will be able to file a motion for you to be able to see your grandchildren, however, this is going to cost you. Is it worth it. You need to ask yourself some serious questions.
Don't let the family walk all over you! You are still hurting and need to be strong for yourself.
2006-11-28 11:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to be sure in case you adult males gt decrease back jointly. in case you adult males do not get decrease back jointly quickly then go back those presents and go back the money on your pocket.in case you adult males are over with then giving him presents received't help you get over him because you're gonna ask your self what he thinks of the presents and what he is going to assert or how he will react to them or if he might want to also settle for them
2016-10-07 22:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't spend a dime on any of them. They should treat people with respect without anyone buying them gifts.
2006-11-28 11:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a crap in your sock and throw it at their door!!That was a joke--kind of--I would just send a card -if they won't even talk to you then you should return the favor and don't indulge their wants i.e. money
2006-11-28 11:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont buy your ex anything buddy. Its ok to give your kids something of course, and maybe give them a little cash to buy their Mom something...Thats what your ex is...THEIR MOM...not your wife..give yer head a shake..
2006-11-28 11:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a very polite Christmas card and end it at that. I think that's the proper thing to do.
2006-11-28 11:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by KMChickk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about all of them they dont deserve squat. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-28 11:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋