Last year, I took my girlfriend to florida, she got me a sweater and some chocolate. This year, i got her an iPod nano early, and told her it was her xmas present, but i'm going to get something anyway. She said this year she wasn't going to be cheap, but she is still planning to spend little on me. Should I be offended? I spent more on her last year than anyone in her family, but she spent more on each of them. I think it is about to be the same this year. Am I wrong for getting upset? Is there a proper way to explain my reasons for being upset to her?
2006-11-28 10:58:29 · 4 answers · asked by Tyler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What you should do is to remind your self it's the thought that counts and not the dollars spent.
2006-11-28 11:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is not giving you things that are as "matched" as you think they should be, three things could be happening-
1) She does not have the same spending as you (which seems unlikely since she spent on her family)
2) She doesn't know what you'd like or doesn't feel she can pick out things you'd enjoy
3) She does not know how long you both will last
People seem to give gifts to their lovers simply to make them say, "Aww! You're the best!" The satisfaction is from their response and reaping the benefits. Seems you're looking for a payback.
If you can imagine regretting giving someone something, don't even bother to give it.
If you seek reward, best not give at all.
2006-11-28 19:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by SweetSoulX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first. The two of you are not married and she may not be as financially stable as you. What's essential is for her to get her family gifts and then think of her spouse. On another note, she didn't ask for these expensive gifts... you choose to give them to her. If you want it to be fair then buy her a sweater or something of the sort. You're the one that chooses to splurge. You can't be picky or greedy when it comes to gifts either.
2006-11-28 19:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself, "Why am I spending so much on her and yet I get so little in return?"
Why do you spend a lot on her? Why don't you get her something "cheap" this year and give it to her on christmas. see how she feels?
To me, it does not matter what my boyfriend gets me. I know he loves me a whole lot and whatever he gets me makes me happy all the same.
2006-11-28 19:01:58 · answer #4 · answered by small one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋