I want to divorce my husband because he pays my daughter (3 yrs. old) and I only negative attention, doesn't help with house work or childcare, and lies about money. He is also a recovering alcoholic who promised he'd stay in counseling, and that didn't happen. He is never affectionate, does not parent, runs away from it, and is just plain irresponsible, leaving me to work my full time job, clean house, take care of our daughter, do all financial tasks, etc., everything but wipe his butt.He has burnt bridges with my family who had offered him work doing carpentry at $40/hr. under the table, blew them off and never called people back after making promises and he's burnt my inlaws by borrowing a ton of cash.My credit is crap now, and has been mentally abusive.My daughter is displaying angry behavior at school like that at home when her father is home.Her teachers and I are working hard to help her through her feelings safely and responsibly.Our mortgage is jumping from $2000 to $2300/mo
2006-11-28 10:42:47 · 11 answers · asked by chapinitegirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is more important the financials or emotional stability?
If you are considering getting a divorice talk to a lawyer now! It does not sound like he is contributing financially or emotionally. It sounds like both you and your daughter will be better off without him!
2006-11-28 10:48:16 · answer #1 · answered by allyinminneapolis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave his sorry @ss. Point BLANK!!! You can do bad all by yourself. I'm sure you family and inlaws will help you as much as possible once you kick that leech to the curb. It's better to end all ties now, before your credit gets to bad. Oh yeah file child support on that sorry bastard. And keep any incriminating evidence to show his temperant and alcoholic ways. This will help out in the divorce if he should have the audcity to ask for custody, visitation rights, or spousal support.
2006-11-28 10:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by They Love ME......... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And when you divorce women and they approach the end of their appointed period, then either retain them in a becoming manner or send them away in a becoming manner; but retain them not wrongfully so that you may transgress against them. And whoso does that, surely wrongs his own soul. And do not make a jest of the commandments of God, and remember the favour of God upon you and the Book and the Wisdom which He has sent down to you, whereby He exhorts you. And fear God and know that God knows all things well
And when you divorce women and they reach the end of their period, prevent them not from marrying their husbands, if they agree between themselves in a decent manner. This an admonition for him among you who believes in God and the Last Day. It is more blessed for you and purer; and God knows but you know not.
2006-11-28 11:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by MUHAMMAD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummm hello?? Is anyone home there inside that head of yours?? I think you KNOW what you need to do. Stay with him and you're only doing what almost every other woman in this world does to herself. You're disrespecting yourself AND your daughter by staying with a dead beat man who isn't going to do anything for you but drive you into the ground. You'll find a way to make it on your own or stay with him and put up with it. It's your call.
2006-11-28 11:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lissa D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that! Time for you to stop being an ENABLER...I totally believe in marriage, but, big BUT, when it comes to the other half of that marriage destroying all, even self esteem, it's time to seek the alternative...If you haven't sought marriage counseling, you might give it a try. I do know one fact about alcoholics, they lie to you, their children and themselves. It's better that he work on himself with his problem and get that fixed first or you wont have to worry about marriage counseling. Alcoholics are to be accountable to someone and it should not be you (of course your story doesn't state that) so he needs to go and get help for self first, then you need to get help and support for you and your child....don't let him ruin you and childs minds!
2006-11-28 10:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by gwennie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there are two issues your really worried about,firstly you do need to divorce him and move on financially you would be in the house he would have to leave if you cant keep up with mortgage repayments then you would have to sell the house and rent out an apartment or something like that,
2006-11-28 10:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by treatau 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl I would get out. Go to a shelter. They have plenty of help for women like you. You and your child should not be subjected to this. Your child will display what she sees at home. It is not a healthy environment for either of you. Get to a shelter and start you life over again.
2006-11-29 13:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take your daughter and leave. Worry about the money later. Your daughters safety and security is more important. I understand that you have been metally abused but end it now and get out, no matter what you lose.
2006-11-28 10:49:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why is your 3 year old daughter in school,,,sounds to me that you are much more worried about money, then you are about her,,,she is just there so you can say oh "poor me", if half of what you have said is true, then you should have left him long ago..But I bet you have your own dependence problems...Leave him tonight, grab the child and leave.
2006-11-29 13:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look car fully and make a decision with allot of thought
Not while you are upset take a break somehow and somewhere out of the houses even for the weekend and clear your head and think
2006-11-28 10:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by tim k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋