How do you ask some if they are gay?

Question

I am Bi and this guy just started working at my job. we worked together for 2 weeks now and I feel something. I can't even pay attention in classes because all I think about is him. He doen't go to my school so I can't ask someone else and now I am stuck. I need to find out but I worry if I ask him that he well be offended and not want to work with me or worse tell everyone that I asked him out. PLEASE ALL HELP HELP ME. SOS

Answer 1

I'm a lesbian and there is a saying about that. Family (meaning people in life) usually can tell family. Being around gay people long enough you get the sense of it. If he isn't giving off that sort of vibe then be careful. If it's that serious and you want to know talk about something a joke or actor who is gay. Feel him out on the subject. Most times a person will say something about it. Don't just ask him out. Men are extremely sensitive about that. You don't want to get hurt. In more ways then one.

Answer 2

It's a little tricky, especially since you work with him and you don't want any awkwardness. I'd say get to know him better. Be sure to ask what he's doing on the weekend, so you get an idea if he's seeing anyone. If he mentions a guy, ask if that's his boyfriend, and see how he reacts to that. Be subtle and fish for information before you do anything. It's not worth rocking the boat at work if you're wrong and he's straight.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Check for a myspace site. Bring up some topic dealing with being gay or gay marriage and see what his reaction is, if he doesn't like gay marriage he probably isn't gay. Ask other co-workers. Ask him to a sporting event or something where you two can hangout, see how things go. If all else fails, just ask. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Work him out. Start by telling him that he smells good when he shows up. Invite him to places and spend quality time with him. And after a while he will tell you or you can ask him. Remember you got to be very patient. Try and let me know what happens...! Good Luck

Answer 5

I will tell you one thing, DONT ASK HIM AT WORK!!!! I did that once, and I got a lecture from the boss about sexual harrassment....shesh. Anyway.... Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, and if he says yes. Wedge the question in somwhere between, are you seeing someone, and pass the chips.

Answer 6

ask him in private....that way he wont say anything and if he will u will just deny it...it will be ur word against his.

and another thing.. dont u have a gaydar everyone has one these days?? lol nah im jokin....u should do it like that or mayb try to flirt with him a bit see what he says or does?again it should be in private if u dont want anyone to find out

Answer 7

Ask him what his relationship status is or ask what he looks for in a woman. Those might help u 2 actually ask him if he's gay. Good Luck!

Answer 8

Hang back and observe for a few days. Perhaps the answer will materialize.

If not, just ask. No harm in that.

Answer 9

just be like whne your around him say you sorta reminf me of my ex boyfriend if he gets creeped out or walks away he is straight if he just laughs or say why hes straight but isnt a homo phobe but if he sort of talks to you and smiles and blah blah blah then you no yo lol.

Answer 10

you could tell him u have a gay cousin & ask him if he knows any gay people & what he thinks of people who like the same sex. & evan if he is not gay or bi, u could still be friends!