they were not there to take care of her when she was sick, but once she passed they would not pay to lay her to rest or sign to lay her to rest. now they think everything should be equal...should i do that to keep the peace???
2006-11-28 10:20:38 · 15 answers · asked by Monica S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If they can't understand why your mother left you everything then you need to give them a reality check and make them see why. Ask them what they were doing when they were to busy to take care of their dieing mother? Tell them that you were right there with her even though you could have been selfish like them and been doing your own thing as they were. Ask them why they feel like they should be compensated for not doing a thing to help their dieing mother before and after her death. You shouldn't be concerned about keeping them happy. If they are that selfish and it is just about the money and belongings to them they don't deserve it, you do. You were the one there not them. She knew how much you cared and she obviously knew how much they could care less about her. Otherwise she would have done things differently. Be proud of what you have done for your mom and the only thing you can do is try to make them understand why she choose to do what she did. The truth is that they don't deserve anything!!! I'm sorry for the death of your mother and God bless you.
2006-11-28 10:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by mama4e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough decision. i went through something similar. if your mother legally left all her stuff to you i think you should keep it. the next step is to look inside yourself and decide what kind of person you are going to be. nevermind your siblings didn't help. do you want to keep the peace in the family that is left or do you want to have material things to replace your family? it's what could happen if you decide to not divide the belongings. talk it over with your siblings. ask them if they don't think you should keep the stuff. you were the care taker. if all else fails do what you think your mother would want you to do. a.k.a. (equally divide to keep the peace) just remember that nothing material here on earth can compare to what awaits for you on the other side.
2006-11-28 10:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by mireya_adame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your loss. You might want to ask the funeral parlor. When a friend's mom died they gave my friend a guidebook outlining what needed to be done. Unless you do something fraudulent you won't get "in trouble." What I mean by this if don't tell the registrar of voters she is dead nobody is going to arrest you. Don't tell them and then try and vote as her, then you will get in trouble. However for somethings the more timely you do them it is cheaper. (e.g. canceling cable) If her estate is substantial I would get legal advice. You will need to file a final tax return with the IRS but pretty much everyone else you will be able to figure when the mail comes. Get a bill from Sears, they need to know. You don't have to notify everybody this second. But pretty much everybody who needs to know will mail her something in the next few months.
2016-05-22 23:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a difficult position to be in! If there was no will stating how she wanted to see her belongings divided you'll need to follow your conscience and try to compromise with your siblings. Are there particular items that they want? If so, let them have some of those, but you should retain those things that have sentimental value to you before you let them get their hands on things. If the estate is to be consolidated and liquidated they can bring suit against you to get their share, so you might want to get a lawyer.
2006-11-28 10:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the will was signed and your mom left it to you then that's totally up to you and how you feel about it. I just went through that that my dad left me his stuff and his son out becuase I took care of him and now because that happened he hasn't spoken to me in 2 years. We will probably never speak at this point. So that's what I mean he took it out on me and that was the end result.
2006-11-28 14:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Where were they when mom needed them? Family like can be like Vultures, come in when they see the time is right. They didn't participate, why should they get what your mother thought YOU deserved? You're mother left her things to YOU cause YOU WERE THERE. Don't give em' a damn thing, they're selfish.
2006-11-28 10:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by All I have to do is dream... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i am sorry to hear about your mom. You shouldn't have to go through this after something like that. Your mom obviously wanted you to have these things, an not your siblings, so why give it to them. Whats the point in giving it to them? it has no significance behind it, she wanted you to have it.
2006-11-28 10:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u sound like the only adult here while they are the brats. U keep it all and ask them to each pick one thing in memory of her and thats all blood is thicker than water they will get over there tantrum.
2006-11-28 10:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by colodge_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you care about the stuff, and how much this will damage your relationship with them. If your mother gave the stuff to you, then they don't really have a say morally.
2006-11-28 10:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♫ giD∑■η ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your brother and sister were not there for your mom and your were, that is why she left you the items and not them. They are being greedy and deserve nothing. Do what you want, but they are not being fair to you.
2006-11-28 10:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋