I'm marrying my girlfriend of 3 months?

Question

We've been knowing each other for 3 months and dating for 1 month. My family keeps saying I'm "stupid", that it's too soon. Why should we wait? The way I feel isn't going to change. I leave for the Army in 2 weeks and she leaves a month after me. Besides the "It's too soon" argument, is there any reason why we shouldn't?

Answer 1

Your insane.

Answer 2

You should listen to your family! You don't know each other! Forget the "I am in love" crap! At this stage it's pheromones, hormones and emotions. When the dust settles you will be left wondering what happened!
I'm thinking you both are still young. Long distance relationships don't work, especially for newlyweds. All you would have to hear is that she has a few "guy" friends and your pants will be in a bind!
Do you even know how she feels about politics? Who's going to stay home with the kids? Do you want children? How many? What type of discipline will you use? Where is you base of operations? Whose parents will you visit first for the holidays? Will you have time to visit both families? Who will you not see? Which holiday will you spend where? Oops, I forgot, which sand dune will you meet?
Shall I go on? Take off the rose-colored glasses. You haven't even seen each other in different settings. That is why engagements are at least a year long! And I don't mean one year from now. I mean 365 days together in the same city/county!
There are people who can not handle being alone. That's when cheating begins. They are lonely, but they love you, they still cheat! The stress, that you both will be under, is very difficult.
You dishonor and are lying to yourself and her, if you say your feelings won't change! Love grows and so should your feelings and your intelligence.

Answer 3

there are a hundred why you should and a thousand why you shouldnt,if it is true love then there shouldnt be any problems in waiting,love can fade after a year or two,true love doesnt fade the two of you are probbably very much in love,but just think of this before you decide to go ahead with it and tell her this also,how do you two feel about children? would you two raise them in the same way? if you two were living together how about householdduties and the cooking cleaning rubbish ect? finances do you agree with each others spending habits how would you two handle the money situation of things,i would say at least live together and be together in your home for a year and then if you two still want to get married thats great,things do change once living together then children come along everything changes,be clear on the other parts of amarriage and a relationship other than the fun side of which your experiencing now

Answer 4

Why be in such a hurry ,,,,, A separation would be a good test of your affections for each other ,,,, If you love each other now like you claim then you will still love each other just as much when you are ready to marry and tie yourself down ,,,, There's no sense in getting in a hurry about it ,,,,, If it's for real then it will stay that way ,,,, Besides ,,,, marriage is a state of mind not a fact of law ,,,, Give it a while ,,,,,

Answer 5

Three months just is not long enough, under any circumstance, to "know" someone! I am married and still learning things everyday about my husband and we've been together for 3 1/2 years. Your relationshionship WILL end up in divorce if you marry her already! Just give it time, if it was meant to be you will still feel this way in a few years and have a better outlook on things. Not to mention your family will feel better about it!

Answer 6

if u are both going off to the army why dont u wait until u get out and if u still feel the same way about each other then get married.

Answer 7

3 months really isn't enough time to get to know someone unless you spend every hour of every day with each other. I know you're being deployed, but if you really want this relationship to last, I suggest taking it slow. Rushing into things can have bad consequences and I've seen it happen.

Answer 8

marriage is a big step. what do you know about this girl? you need to get to know her better and see if you really want to be with her because over time people change and so do feelings. I have this guy who wants to marry me and we've been seeing each other for over a year but then he went to prison for 10 months and now he out. he is so surprised about the way i have changed. but i told him i need time to spend with him and to see if he is the right one. i was with this other guy for 4 years and he turned to be a total liar and cheater and he broke my heart real bad. sometime you think you really know a person but you really don't. take your time and get to know her better. don't rush it just because your going to the army. love is beautiful but marriage is serious. so think about it seriously

Answer 9

If you feel it in your heart, do it! However, it does sound like you may be young and that time can change people. Why not wait until you get back from the Army?

Answer 10

Military marriages are notoriously difficult. Doubly so if both are in the military. Wait until you both reach you first permanent duty station, if you feel the same, go for it.

Answer 11

If you are having sex then you should be married. If not, then it is too soon. Knowing a person for 3 months tells you little, if anything of who they are. I would not agree with such a quick marriage. If you feel this way about her now, then you should feel this way about her later and visa versa right? Then what is the rush? Unless you are having sex, I say no to marriage at this point!