help me!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

ok i met this guy on net when i was 17 years old, i gave him some nude pictures of me. i found out now that if i don;t do what he wants he will send those pictures to my family and co workers!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i left him 5 years ago i will be getting married soon if my fiance knows of this if my family knows of this my life will be over. i will kill myslef. what should i do???????????????

please i don't want lose my fiance he will never forgive me my family will disown me i will be on the streets i can't risk this!! i can't get a restring order on him. he has everyone's e-mail address. he wants me to take more pictures for him what should i do. OH GOD

Answer 1

call the po po's on him

Answer 2

Alright then, you made a poor choice and you now want to stop this guy from sending these picture to your family and friends. Call his bluff, as he has probably already sold them on the net or has them for his own personal collection. Do not make any more contact with this A-WHOLE. You know what he wants! Don't go there; I know you want the pictures back and you want this to be over but the fact is you gave them to him and now he is trying to use you and manipulate you to do whatever he wants. If you do this, you may as well kiss off your marriage. If he contacts you by email don't open it, change your email address. If he comes around don't talk to him pretend like you don't know who he is (tell him you are going to call the police). You may at some point have to go to the police as this could go on until he decides to stop. I hope all works out for you and you don't give in to his wants. Be strong and pray hard but be wise at the same time. Don't kill yourself it's not worth the pain you would cause others.

Answer 3

First of all, it's not worth killing yourself over. It was a stupid thing to do and he knows he has you where he wants you. Don't let him have the upper hand. Be honest with your family and fiance and tell them what you did--and why, if you had a compelling reason--and ask them to forgive you. Get them on your side, plead insanity if you have to. If your fiance really loves you he may be upset, but he'll forgive you, especially since you are his now. The whole situation will be deflated, except that this jerk you gave the photos to might put them on a website or something. Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't dig yourself a deeper hole than you're already in. Want to hear a horror story? My husband and I took some dirty pictures of me one night and I thought I'd thrown the film out because I was too chicken to take them anywhere to have them developed. One day I took what I thought were the photos of our kids on vacation to the developers. When I came back to pay for them, the girl slapped the film on the counter and beat a hasty retreat. I was confused. I thought, "Oh no, did I not wind the film correctly? Was it all fogged and so they didn't charge me for it??" To my absolute HORROR, it was our dirty photos!!! OMG, I must've turned 50 shades of red.

I still blush to think of it, but I've more or less gotten over it. My husband still teases me.

These photos are over 5 years old, correct? You were a young stupid 17 year old kid going through an experimental phase. You made a big mistake. Don't make a bigger mistake by trying to hide it from your fiance. If your husband-to-be can't handle a little bite of real life like this, then perhaps he's not ready to be married to you. Apologize to him for putting him in this position, but tell him you felt it was only fair that you explain to him what was going on. If he's even remotely sane, he's going to be seriously p*ssed off at your ex-boyfriend. Like baseball bat to the kneecaps p*ssed off.

I don't know about your family, but at least you'll have your fiance for support. Oh, and another horror story: I once took dirty photos of myself when I was a teenager and stuck them under my bed. I came home from school and found nary a dust bunny under my bed, and a bible sitting on top of it. I should mention I came from a VERY conservative family.

Don't underestimate your family's ability to love you and support you. You're a victim here, not the bad guy.

Answer 5

He is playing a very dangerous game, first point being he is in possession of nude photos of a 17 year old, which is considered child pornography. Second he is attempting to exploit you by blackmailing you into doing something you aren't willing to do. I would contact the district attorneys office and verify your rights. If anything they would pursue the photos of a nude minor. Killing yourself wont make it better. You are an adult that is getting ready to get married and lead an adult life, we can't run from those stupid things we did when we were children, stand up for yourself and your rights. Don't let him think he has you backed into a corner. Good Luck

Answer 6

Honey, calm down.

Why would you want to kill yourself over this if it gets out? That's a little drastic.

First of all, you did nothing wrong so why are you so worried? I understand that it would be embarrassing for your family and co-workers to see those pics, but you were in a committed relationship with this a.s.s.hole and you gave him some pics. So what? People do that in relationships. There's nothing wrong with that.

Why do you think your fiance' would hold that against you? Or your family? That's in your past. You did nothing wrong. Stand up for yourself if they get out! You have to have the attitude that you don't have to apologize for anything. He is the a.s.s here, not you.

Good luck honey!

Answer 7

1. (What is a "restring order?")

2.Ignore it all. If he claims it's you, play bumb.....If anyone confronts you with this stuff, you claim you have absolutely NO idea where it came from....."that doesn't even look like me... wow, they can do wonders with photoshop and digital stuff...."

3. Go back to school and take a course in English that teaches you that the pronoun pronounced "eye" is capitalized, as in: If you call, "I" will answer. Do not begin sentences with ....ok... and of course, don't e-mail this guy any more.

Answer 8

FIRST PRAY!!!....Get a restraining order against him, and call the cops if he ever conacts you or any of your family, co-workers or frineds. And straight up be honest and tell your fiance. Then call a family meeting and tell your family & friends before they find out for themselves. Warn your Human Resource department of your problem by telling them you have an ex-boyfriend stalker who is trying to hurt you and ruin your reputation. Dont let him win by making you wanna kill yourself. You might wanna start going to the shooting range to blow off a few rounds too. Does wonders for the stress & tension.

Answer 9

don't kill yourself. Life is what YOU make it. you should simply tell your fiance about the pictures and tell him that it happened along time ago. If he really love you than he will understand. and as far as your family go- they will love you no matter what. that's what family's are for. and stop communicating with that guy and if he is harassing you then get a retraining order on him.

Answer 10

Tell your family first and tell them not to open these pictures than tell the guy he has no power and seriously it's just a pic your family and fiance will forgive and forget. But take the blackmailer's power away tell him he's a scum bag and never speak to him again.

Answer 11

Just be honest. Forget this guy. Everyone who loves you should understand that you made a mistake. Move on. Better to find out from you than someone else. Don't do anything that guy wants, be honest with your fiance. He should understand it was before him. Build trust with her fiance. Good Luck Chica!!